Posted by Kath on January 1, 2008, at 11:12:23
In reply to Re: .. » adelaide curtis, posted by Michael83 on January 1, 2008, at 2:29:08
> I am simply trying to communication my frustrations and attempt to understand the world not point my finger at anyone.
You know, Michael, that's a mammouth undertaking - attempting to understand the world.
I think the things that affect me in a really negative way from others who I encounter in a day-to-day way are things like:
anger, meanness, cruelty....negative things like that. Even on a smaller scale like people saying something hurtful that they didn't REALLY need to say, or wording something in a hurtful way, when it could have been worded gently.
You know, there are some things in this world that I can NOT even think about....I get too upset (like famine, refugees, poor people either on the streets here or in Third World countries).
The way I deal with those things seems to be by being an ostrich.It's not as easy to be an ostrich & put my head into the sand if, for example, I didn't pull into the intersection when the light first turned green & the person behind me HONKED & gave me the finger or something. If the truck was dirty & the people looked grubby & were wafting smoke & were blaring loud music I could get a way different impression if I was meanly honked at than if grubby people, in a dirty, old vehicle, wafting smoke & blaring music were smiling kindly & waved at me to make a turn ahead of them in heavy traffic.
I guess it can be hard to separate appearances from our preconceptions.
Maybe a good way of thinking about it in the 'HONKing' example is:
"I have no idea what experiences these people had while they were growing up & during their lives. Thank goodness that my experiences & background ended up with me like I am." and then just try to get back to our own self instead of letting it affect us ongoing. That's hard though. If people are mean to me I find it hard not to be affected by it.
Those were just a few thoughts on it. To tell you the truth - I just realized that maybe my depression has an "up" side! I am usually having such a challenge dealing with my worry, anxiety or depression, that I don't get into thinking & analyzing others or to a large extent, the world around me!
I hope 2008 brings us all more Peace in our minds.
best wishes Michael. :-) Kath
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