Posted by Kath on February 6, 2008, at 16:40:54
In reply to Re: Still feel bad *trigger*, posted by Deneb on February 6, 2008, at 0:29:18
> My parents tell me by the time I get my degree I'll be old and no one will hire me.
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> They all want me to go through life like everyone else, finish school, get a job, get married, have kids.
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> I'm not sure I even want to get married or have kids. I'm not power hungry or money hungry. I can live a pretty simple life and be happy. What my Mom wants for me is different from what I want in life.
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> For my Mom, life isn't about beiing happy, it's about doing things that must be done. For me, I like putting myself through as less stress as possible.
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> I'm personally OK with getting my degree in my 30's or not getting married until I'm 40 or 50. It just seems that society and my parents aren't OK with these things.
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> I believe I develop much more slowly than other people. Right now I'd say I'm in the teenage phase. Up until now I've not wanted independence from my family, but right now I find I want some.
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> I just wish my family supported the way I lead my life.
******Deneb - Look at how wise you are!!! You have SO much insight in this post, it blows me away!!YOU are an individual!! Not all of society pushes the marry, get a house, have kids thing, but a lot of people do, you're right.
A lot of people get uncomfortable & sorta bossy & pushy when someone is different from them. I've been a vegetarian for decades. As you probably know, I'm 60 & nowadays if I say I'm a veggie nobody 'bats an eyelash'.....it's no big deal, because way more people are vegatarians. When I was in my 20's & 30's if I said I was veggie people would say, "WHY!!!" as if I had to give them a damned good reason why I'd DARE to do something so bizarre - what NERVE I had, to dare to be different from them.
So yes, probably most folks sorta expect others to follow a certain pattern with their life. But YAY for you! You're looking at your life, which is a gift that has been given to you. You're deciding how you want to live it.
Your family is freaking because they're pretty traditional, it sounds like.
Anyway, I'm still reading the posts, but wanted to stop at this one to let you know how impressed I am. If you were my daughter I'd be glad to hear you deciding how you wanted to live your life!!!
Love, Kath
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