Posted by wishingstar on April 8, 2008, at 14:15:15
In reply to Re: Avoidance as a coping mechanism » obsidian, posted by Happyflower on April 7, 2008, at 22:49:30
I rarely post anymore, but just had to post when I saw this. Avoidance is my word of the month. Work-related, primarily. It's beginning to stretch into wanting to avoid going to work at all (although I always do go), but I avoid clients pretty regularly. I no longer do the job I did a year ago (for those who knew then), but now do a high-contact-with-others, high-stress, high-confrontation job. Avoid avoid avoid. I'm learning (to do it.. not avoid.. hah).
I dont have the answer. I can just relate. I think the only real answer there is is just forcing yourself. That's what I do. Sometimes I'll promise myself a small reward if I do a particularly icky thing, like a dessert after lunch or allowing myself to relax the rest of the day after the hard thing. That seems to help. The other key for me is to just do it, without allowing myself to think about what I'm doing. I'm aware that I dont want to for whatever reason it is, but I just keep walking, keep dialing, keep whatever and dont allow myself to think until its really too late (ie, I'm already on the way to the store, the phone is already ringing on the other end, etc). I'm not sure what it is youre avoiding, but maybe that helps.
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