Posted by Dinah on February 14, 2013, at 12:32:24
In reply to Re: this feels unnatural, posted by Dr. Bob on February 13, 2013, at 23:45:15
> > Can you think of a way to make it more natural than group-like?
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> Yes: practice.
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> This feels unnatural to me, too. Even after trying it a number of times already. So I've asked a colleague to coach me.In what settings do you plan to use this? When do you think it would be appropriate on Babble? I can see it as a therapy technique, though I'd probably bite my therapist's head off if he tried to demonstrate "skills" with me. (Good thing I chose a therapist with enough experience to make his skillset largely transparent.) So please be understanding when some patients find "technique" maddening in a therapeutic setting.
> OTOH, something new always feels unnatural. Learning a foreign language, communicating online, being civil -- all might feel unnatural at first, but more natural with practice. It's unrealistic to expect something new to feel natural.
My kindergarten teacher wrote that Dinah only enjoys doing things she's good at doing. That never really changed. I gave up on my effort to learn Welsh. Being civil, according to the civility guidelines of this site, came naturally to me. Most of the rules made perfect sense to me - possibly through being raised by my kindergarten teacher mother. The rest seemed like a reasonable request by you that we follow the rules of your site, as host to guest.
> Dinah, do you feel joined by me?
Ok, you lost me there. Could you perhaps rephrase? That not only felt uncomfortable but made me blush and feel *uncomfortable*. No offense Dr. Bob. How about "Do you feel understood by me" or "Do you feel like we're communicating as a team" or something. And until that phrase came up, I did. After, I wanted to tell you to please stay in your chair.
Dinah
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