Posted by jane d on April 14, 2015, at 17:17:48
In reply to Re: fear, posted by alexandra_k on April 11, 2015, at 23:18:29
"The main thing is to be able to control my attention. So that I can spend some time worrying about something / trying to fix something... Then spend some time doing something else."
You said this several posts up and I think it's important. It's very easy to get totally caught up in what's wrong with the world - especially if you are in the habit of noticing and analyzing everything and that doesn't leave enough time for you.
A couple of thoughts. I grew up riding crowded buses and subways so I usually can shrug that off but I've had periods in my life, corresponding to my mental state, where I found it nearly unbearable. What I did to cope then was to try and pretend to be someplace else that I liked - for me it was a specific mountain top - for you it might be looking out the window of your room -and I'd try to fix as many details in my mind as I could remember. This let me partially tune out the fact that I was jammed up against people like a sardine.
I also wonder if you are making time to get to the gym or do any other kind of exercise. I remember your posts about how much you enjoyed that. I know it's very hard to do when you have a heavy course load - in fact it's one of the things I always let go first when I got busy and in retrospect I think it's one reason I always ended up falling apart (Yes - this is a do as I say, not as I did kind of message - sorry about that).
Wishing you good luck.
Jane
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