Posted by Simcha on September 17, 2003, at 19:40:57
This is a direct quote from "Addicted to online porn" found here:
http://www.msnbc.com/news/443437.asp?cp1=1
"Dr. Robert Hsiung agrees that there are healthy ways to use cybersex. "I don’t think that any involvement is bad," said Hsiung, an associate professor of psychiatry at the University of Chicago. "If a couple surfs together and it turns them on and helps their sex life, I don’t see any problem with that."
Dr. Bob, your second statement is OK. The first one is way out of line with research and personal experience in the field of Sex Addiction.
Perhaps you have a lack of education about Sex Addiction and how Sex Addicts use porn to check out of life with disasterous consequences. I suggest you pick up a few books by Patrick Carnes Ph.D. He just released a new one on Internet Porn. You might find that enlightening. (see below)
Also, I know that you have access to many 12-step meetings in your area. I began my own recovery in Chicago. Try Sexaholics Anonymous, Sex Addicts Anonymous, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, and Sexual Compulsives Anonymous. It's doctors like you that provide no help to people like me. In fact if I would have listened to doctors like you I would be dead by now. I'm certain of that.
Sex Addiction is no lauging matter. It's not anything to be taken lightly. It destroys lives and kills people through diseases like HIV/AIDS. It kills people who make bad decisions and take up with nasty people for a sexual hit only to be killed during the act. This has happened to people I know with whom I've been in recovery.
Personally I find your statements way out of line and detrimental to your own clients. I suggest you get an education on Sex Addiction.
By the way, this is why I'm specializing as a Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in treating Sex Addiction. There aren't enough people out there to help those who suffer. Please get an education before you cause more harm.
Books by Patrick Carnes:
"In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior"
"Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction"
"Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery"
"Clinical Management of Sex Addiction"
"Contrary to Love: Helping the Sexual Addict"
"Don't Call It Love: Recovery from Sexual Addiction"
"Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred""Start with those titles. I can give you more references if you want. Please get this education.
Blessings,
Simcha
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