Posted by deirdrehbrt on February 3, 2006, at 10:57:32
In reply to Dealing with husband's drinking, posted by antigua on February 3, 2006, at 8:58:03
Hi Antigua,
I got sober almost 5 months aga. I live with 3 active alcoholics. It's tough.
I'll come into the house and one of my roommates will be drinking and smoking pot, and she'll say "come on.... have some" and "you're such a fun drunk, why can't you have just a little". I just pray that she won't catch me at an especially weak moment.
Another roommate is this 65 year old man. He looks about 90. He is a bar tender and most of his life is spent on one side of the bar or the other. Alcohol is his life.
I'm on disability now, so moving isn't the easiest thing to do, but I've given myself until June to get out of that house.
I have to get out of there. I can't afford to put my sobriety at risk because to do so is literally to put my life at risk. had tried a number of times to get sober, but the final straw was when I woke up in the intensive care ward. I don't think that I can go much farther down and survive.
Living where people drink is one thing. Living with alcoholics is another, but living with alcoholics who want and pressure you to drink is still another.
You have to do what keeps you safe. Some people are able to deal with their partner's drinking without going back out. If you can do that, I applaud you. I don't think that you can change your husband's drinking though. Only he can do that. He probably won't though, until he determines that drinking is causing him too many problems.
I don't really know what to say. I was divorced before I quit. I just know how hard it is living with someone who's active. Everything from finding their bottles and being tempted to drink, to seeing them stumble in the house and hearing "Hi honey, I love you" and smelling the booze on them as they hug you. it's really tough.
I'll pray for you.
--Dee
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