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Posted by PL on July 6, 1999, at 13:04:15
live in fl. thought about going east when we went to see the fireworks yesterday at the beach. couldn't stand to sit there. went back to the truck to feel more at home. get sort of agoraphobic when not in my ususal surroundings. go to work. got to. can't die cause my husb and daugh need the money. see a pscy. take wellb and tried several others. my husb is getting fed up. no family. parents dead. no friends. dont like people. at a dead end but have to go on. my life insur wouldn't keep them long. husb not very capable but very sarcastic and condesending. not much support. fall over a lot. sleep is good. don't miss work though. they need the $. i hate life. am a good actor at work. but sometimes i need to be myself.... nobody.
Posted by Deb on July 6, 1999, at 14:01:16
In reply to me, posted by PL on July 6, 1999, at 13:04:15
> live in fl. thought about going east when we went to see the fireworks yesterday at the beach. couldn't stand to sit there. went back to the truck to feel more at home. get sort of agoraphobic when not in my ususal surroundings. go to work. got to. can't die cause my husb and daugh need the money. see a pscy. take wellb and tried several others. my husb is getting fed up. no family. parents dead. no friends. dont like people. at a dead end but have to go on. my life insur wouldn't keep them long. husb not very capable but very sarcastic and condesending. not much support. fall over a lot. sleep is good. don't miss work though. they need the $. i hate life. am a good actor at work. but sometimes i need to be myself.... nobody.
Dear PL,
How long have you been feeling this way? Do you feel that your meds or therapist are doing you any good? Do you dislike people or just the effort it takes to deal with them? I know when I'm very depressed I resent anyone intruding in my private world. Anyway, you've come to a good place for information, support and links to other resources where you might get help. Don't give up, believe me, help is out there.
Sending prayers and support your way,
Deb
Posted by emily on July 6, 1999, at 14:24:53
In reply to me, posted by PL on July 6, 1999, at 13:04:15
> live in fl. thought about going east when we went to see the fireworks yesterday at the beach. couldn't stand to sit there. went back to the truck to feel more at home. get sort of agoraphobic when not in my ususal surroundings. go to work. got to. can't die cause my husb and daugh need the money. see a pscy. take wellb and tried several others. my husb is getting fed up. no family. parents dead. no friends. dont like people. at a dead end but have to go on. my life insur wouldn't keep them long. husb not very capable but very sarcastic and condesending. not much support. fall over a lot. sleep is good. don't miss work though. they need the $. i hate life. am a good actor at work. but sometimes i need to be myself.... nobody.
Dear PL,
I think you title "me" is your answer. It's time for you to concentrate on "me". Let the husband take care of the finances and household. Make a decision that you want to feel better and you'll do what is necessary to feel good again. If you are not getting what you need from the Dr, find another. Switch meds. Do what you can for "me". You are so very worth it!!
Em
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 7, 1999, at 11:39:16
In reply to Re: me, posted by emily on July 6, 1999, at 14:24:53
> > go to work. got to. can't die cause my husb and daugh need the money.
> I think you title "me" is your answer. It's time for you to concentrate on "me". Let the husband take care of the finances and household.
But don't, of course, just leave it up to them by killing yourself!
> Make a decision that you want to feel better and you'll do what is necessary to feel good again.
Bob
Posted by Racer on July 8, 1999, at 0:25:17
In reply to Re: $, posted by Dr. Bob on July 7, 1999, at 11:39:16
PL, please find the same support here that I've found. I am too sick to work most of the time, but also expend most of my energy trying to hide how bad things are with me. My life sux, pretty much, but you have something I don't, something that I would give up anything in the world for: a child. Your daughter, while you may not notice it now, really does love you. One day, when you're not noticing, she will look at you and love you more than you'll ever know. My own mother would never believe what I really think of her, and if she ever did, she'd never have any but ecstatic moments again.
OK, the daughter may not be enough to keep you going, but YOU are worth it. When your daughter finally realizes what a goddess her mother is, it won't be a mistake. Think of what sort of woman it takes to support a family with almost no support of any sort. What kind of woman manages to keep a job when she's so distraught? What does it take to show the world a capable, functioning human being when inside all is chaos?
Truly, my dear, I can relate to much of what you said. My meds are not working, and I'm in a pretty deep hole right now. But I know that medication can make my mood lift, so that I can function again, and then I'll be able to take on the world. Let's race for it, what do you say? Talk to your doctor. Tell him that you're not willing to settle for anything less than EUTHYMIA!! Get the meds in place, then make any changes to your life that you want to make. Maybe express to your husband the thought that you won't admit to now: that someone who doesn't contribute substantially to the support of the family is not entitled to express opinions quite so freely?
Listen, all flippancy aside: sure, I'm a crazy person writing to you. Still, I know that the depression has me in a headlock, that it's a monster holding me back. I know that if I can whip it, I can do anything. I'll meet you at the top of K2, you just tell me when. Let's show them. Let's get all the way better. You and me both. What do you say?
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