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Posted by kelly on January 31, 2000, at 20:16:52
i've been so out of it these last few days, can even get out of bed in the morning. I'm going back to work on mon & if i can't get up now what am i'm going to do when it's time to go to work.I see my new Dr. tomorrow,mybe he can help or not. Have to snap out of it by wed. cause my sister in-law is flying in from CA and i don't want her to see me this way.
Posted by Noa on January 31, 2000, at 20:22:47
In reply to THE LIVING DEAD, posted by kelly on January 31, 2000, at 20:16:52
Kelly, so glad you wrote.
Sorry you are so down right now. You really need to work on finding a med that works for you, with your new doc.
I don't know if it is a good, motivating thing that your sister in law is coming, or more pressure.
Is there anything about work you can psych yourself up to look forward to?
Posted by Phil on January 31, 2000, at 21:10:47
In reply to THE LIVING DEAD, posted by kelly on January 31, 2000, at 20:16:52
Kelly, I've been unemployed for 3 weeks and have never known and loved my bed more. Even so, I have an interview tomorrow and I'm going thru the motions of finding employment.
I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL! Try to, I know this is hard, get into the routine any way you can. And try to stay out and about tomorrow after seeing your doctor. Just getting out of my apartment kind of wakes me up. The world's a lot more frightening in my imagination than in reality.
I like the saying,'act as if'. Act as if things are falling into place and sometimes it can help.So many people we meet everyday are acting as if. Everyone else looks 'normal' but everyone has a game face. I guess we just slap ours on and do the best we can. Please let us hear how GREAT your new doctor is tomorrow.
I promise my thoughts will be with you...Phil
Posted by kelly on February 3, 2000, at 14:18:59
In reply to THE LIVING DEAD, posted by kelly on January 31, 2000, at 20:16:52
> i've been so out of it these last few days, can even get out of bed in the morning. I'm going back to work on mon & if i can't get up now what am i'm going to do when it's time to go to work.I see my new Dr. tomorrow,mybe he can help or not. Have to snap out of it by wed. cause my sister in-law is flying in from CA and i don't want her to see me this way.
I didn't even get to see the Dr. they just had me filling out paper work for 2hrs. I see the Dr. on the 1st of Mar. The nures said that the meds are most likely going to be upped or changed.they where really nice there, hope the Dr. is the same.
Posted by Noa on February 3, 2000, at 15:06:56
In reply to Re: THE LIVING DEAD, posted by kelly on February 3, 2000, at 14:18:59
Hi, Kelly. I'm so glad you wrote. I was going to post something to you tonight.
I'm glad the nurses were nice. So this place has one thing good in its favor. But having to wait YET ANOTHER MONTH??? It sounds a bit much to me.
Are you up and out of bed? Were you able to get to work at all?
Thinking of you.....
Posted by kelly on February 3, 2000, at 15:31:18
In reply to Re: THE LIVING DEAD, posted by Noa on February 3, 2000, at 15:06:56
> Hi, Kelly. I'm so glad you wrote. I was going to post something to you tonight.
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> I'm glad the nurses were nice. So this place has one thing good in its favor. But having to wait YET ANOTHER MONTH??? It sounds a bit much to me.
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> Are you up and out of bed? Were you able to get to work at all?
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> Thinking of you.....Feeling better this last couple of days & i don't start work til monday. scared of going back everyone knows why i was out of work. I geuss I'm afaid of what they think of me now that they now I'm nuts? My Dr. before he died wanted me to get into a new line of work.( I'm a nures aide now ) I work in a nursing home, I take care of the old & dying.
Posted by Noa on February 3, 2000, at 16:49:11
In reply to Re: THE LIVING DEAD, posted by kelly on February 3, 2000, at 15:31:18
Kelly,
How is it everyone at work knows why you were out?
When you use the word "nuts" it obviously has a negative, judgmental connotation. Is this how YOU feel about having problems? Do you know for sure that your coworkers have a judgmental attitude? Is it ALL of them? Can you identify which ones won't have a judgmental attitude? Is this just what you are afraid of?
I agree the transition back is a hard one to face. Set your expectations for yourself low and slow. Get back into the groove of it gradually.
You have a very hard job.
Why did you previous doc think it was a bad profession for you? Is it the emotional burden because of the illness and end of life problems and death? If so, I would agree, you should start thinking about an environment that would help you feel less burdened.
Is there anything you find fulfilling about your job?
BTW, how long were you out, may I ask?
Posted by kelly on February 4, 2000, at 16:13:16
In reply to Re: THE LIVING DEAD, posted by Noa on February 3, 2000, at 16:49:11
> Kelly,
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> How is it everyone at work knows why you were out?
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> When you use the word "nuts" it obviously has a negative, judgmental connotation. Is this how YOU feel about having problems? Do you know for sure that your coworkers have a judgmental attitude? Is it ALL of them? Can you identify which ones won't have a judgmental attitude? Is this just what you are afraid of?
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> I agree the transition back is a hard one to face. Set your expectations for yourself low and slow. Get back into the groove of it gradually.
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> You have a very hard job.
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> Why did you previous doc think it was a bad profession for you? Is it the emotional burden because of the illness and end of life problems and death? If so, I would agree, you should start thinking about an environment that would help you feel less burdened.
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> Is there anything you find fulfilling about your job?
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> BTW, how long were you out, may I ask?noa, Back in May of 99' my husband was arrested & kicked out of the police academy, because my sons freind that came over 6mos. before said that my husband offered her a dollar for sex. this of course is not true, I was home when this girl was in my home, she said that I wasn't home that I was at a party(I can't go to parties too many people). But anyway I was out of wofk for three days when this was going on & when I returned I looked like hell,cring, lost 10lbs and sheet white from not eating.It came out in the paper that morning (front page),the head nurse showed me the paper & asked if it would be ok to talk to everyone else about it so noone would be talking about it. I couldn't stay the whole day so i went home cring. My husband was scared that i was going to kill myself that he called my Dr. that said to put me in the hospital. My husband told the head nurse where i was, & that she could tell the other nurses on my floor so they could visit. So like women do talk,everyone knew were i was.
Everyone was very suported when i went back,they said that they didn't believe what the paper's were saying, that's alote for them to say most of them hate the cops in our town.
I was heading down hill again so i went to every other weekend in sept. & by nov. i stop. because i wasn't sleeping at all and that made it hard to get up to be to work by 7am.
went to my job today to hand in papewr work, everyone was very happy that i was coming back.and i start this sun not mon.like i thought. so things look good there.
I can't wait to go back & scared at the sametime. I know it's a emotional burden job,but i seem to be good at it. I've been doing this kind of work for 2yrs. now & 2yrs. this may at this place. I like helping them feel happy & comforable in there final days.wish me luck this sunday.
Posted by Noa on February 5, 2000, at 15:23:14
In reply to Re: THE LIVING DEAD, posted by kelly on February 4, 2000, at 16:13:16
Kelly, I'm glad your first day back went well. If you like this work and are good at it, why change? I do think it is wise to make sure you are getting taken care of, too, though, because I imagine caring for people so ill, and seeing people die, can be taxing.
Has there been any development in your husband's case?
Posted by kelly on February 5, 2000, at 17:30:36
In reply to Re: THE LIVING DEAD, posted by Noa on February 5, 2000, at 15:23:14
> Kelly, I'm glad your first day back went well. If you like this work and are good at it, why change? I do think it is wise to make sure you are getting taken care of, too, though, because I imagine caring for people so ill, and seeing people die, can be taxing.
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> Has there been any development in your husband's case?Our lawyer wants to fight it all the way after reading the statement of the mother,He said theres so many holes in it that we could win,but can we put up w/ it in the paper for three days? & we don't have the money to pay the lawyer.We did get good news, after the courts read the letters on my husbands behave from a nun,lawyer,& his pdoc, they said they well give him PTI if he goes and sees a Dr. to be tested,So he goes and see this Dr. on the 10th of this month.$800 we have to come up with.so well see what happens.
Posted by Noa on February 5, 2000, at 20:11:20
In reply to Re: THE LIVING DEAD, posted by kelly on February 5, 2000, at 17:30:36
What is PTI?
Posted by kelly on February 8, 2000, at 18:59:11
In reply to Re: THE LIVING DEAD, posted by Noa on February 5, 2000, at 20:11:20
> What is PTI?
PTI is Pre-Trial Intervention,You can only uses PTI one time in your life,we went this way because we can't afford to fight it,& if he was found guilty he could go to jail for 10yrs. A cop in jail (LIVE BAIT). So if he gets PTI he well go on probation for about 3yrs.better then him going to jail.
Work is going good so far,everyone happy to see me back,alote has change since i stopped working.nothing i can't handle.
Posted by noa on February 9, 2000, at 6:13:14
In reply to Re: THE LIVING DEAD, posted by kelly on February 8, 2000, at 18:59:11
Kelly, you and your husband have been through an ordeal, and I guess the PTI process will at least spare you the long, drawn out public ordeal of a trial.
I am so glad you are happy to be back at work. Make a good, strong mental note, or even a written one, to remind yourself of this, so if you have a bad day/week, whatever and are having trouble getting back into work, you can remember that you like work, like the people, are good at your job, etc.
Posted by Noa on February 9, 2000, at 6:14:16
In reply to Re: THE LIVING DEAD, posted by kelly on February 8, 2000, at 18:59:11
Also, how are your kids dealing with the whole legal thing?
Posted by PattyG on February 9, 2000, at 6:29:36
In reply to Re: THE LIVING DEAD, posted by kelly on February 8, 2000, at 18:59:11
Kelly,
I've never heard of PTI........do you know if it is something utilized in all states or just where you live? Very interesting. I would think, also, that if you truly cannot afford an attorney, the court is obligated to appoint a pauper attorney. Even if your husband is then deemed able to pay, it could be paid in installment payments. (Of course you would have no control over who is representing you/your husband.) Please keep us posted. And I commend you on the type of work you do. It is quite admirable to bring efficient and loving care to the elderly - I'm sure they appreciate you!
Posted by kelly on February 9, 2000, at 18:11:40
In reply to Re: THE LIVING DEAD, posted by PattyG on February 9, 2000, at 6:29:36
> Kelly,
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> I've never heard of PTI........do you know if it is something utilized in all states or just where you live? Very interesting. I would think, also, that if you truly cannot afford an attorney, the court is obligated to appoint a pauper attorney. Even if your husband is then deemed able to pay, it could be paid in installment payments. (Of course you would have no control over who is representing you/your husband.) Please keep us posted. And I commend you on the type of work you do. It is quite admirable to bring efficient and loving care to the elderly - I'm sure they appreciate you!As far as I know it's in all states maybe under a different name.And his lawyer said he would take installment payments if we had to go on anymore,We didn't want a court appointed lawyer because they don't fight for you,(YOU GET WHAT YOU PAY FOR). Our lawyer said we could win if we wanted to fight it but my husband don't want it in the papers anymore because they print what they want & our kids went through so much last time it was all in the papers.
Posted by kelly on February 9, 2000, at 18:40:53
In reply to Re: THE LIVING DEAD, posted by Noa on February 9, 2000, at 6:14:16
> Also, how are your kids dealing with the whole legal thing?
My son Brian is the oldest he is 9yrs old,he was having some problems w/ the whole thing, he keeps asking why daddy still has to go to court if he told the truth.
We don't let the kids have any friends over anymore,we have the kids in a after school program so they can have friends to hang out with there. My other kids don't understand whats going on. I hope this doesn't effete them in the long run?
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