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Posted by Nikki on March 14, 2000, at 5:53:10
I don't think I can cope on this withdrawal and every any more. I still feel as bad, and doc won't give combinations of drugs over here.
My husband no longer understands any of what I'm going through, and this morning said he no longer wanted to live with me, and top move out untill I can pull myself together. So basically, the one thing I thought was decent in my life is gone... There is no one left I can even consider talking to.. All my friends either only see me as the bubbly person I used to try to be, or their problems are alot worse than mine, and tell me to pull myself together.
last night a friend called, as he needed someone to talk to, and spent an hour telling me how selfish suicide is, and how anyone with severe depression is bringing upon themselves.What am I meant to do now.. I just wantt o hide and see no one ever again... All I want is someone to understand and hold me when things are really bad. I can't even manage to keep my marriage together - and we've only been married 4 months...
I give up
Posted by Cam W. on March 14, 2000, at 7:20:42
In reply to Is it all falling apart??, posted by Nikki on March 14, 2000, at 5:53:10
Nikki - Many of us have been where you are now. I am fortunate to have a very tolerant and understanding wife, but this doesn't mean she hasn't threatened to leave on many occasions in the 12 years we have been married. (I can be such a bastard when sick - and sometimes when not sick). A new marriage is difficult at the best of times, but when one has a psychiatric problem it can be much harder. What the two of you need is counseling. I would recommend someone skilled both in marriage and in psych disorders (or someone as close as possible). A counselor with professional training would be the best. This has helped my marriage stay together. Getting a guy to go to counseling can be difficult, but if he really loves you he should be willing to do anything to keep your relationship together. If he runs and won't listen at the first sign of stormy weather, then he may not be worth buying a raincoat for. He has to come to grips with your illness, as do you. Working together the two of you can help speed you into remission, you just have to learn the techniques to do it. Also, with the doctor situation. Pester him/her. Tell your doc that you don't think the therapy is working. Ask what non-drug methods he would recommend you try. If he/she has no answers, maybe see if another doctor will. Ask you current doc for a referral. Others on this website will probably have more and better recommendations for you. Wait a couple of days and see what replies you get. There are many knowledgeable and caring people on this site. In the meantime, keep your chin up (or as high as you can at this point) and keep in touch. Best of luck and NEVER give up. - Cam W.
Posted by Cynthia on March 14, 2000, at 12:16:40
In reply to Re: Is it all falling apart??, posted by Cam W. on March 14, 2000, at 7:20:42
Nikki- I am sorry things are so difficult right now Cam is right . I think counseling is a great idea. I am sure it is worth trying . There are times when I get tired of being sick and I am sure you feel the same way. There are many people that care that I am sure would reach out if they were aware of how bad things were for you. You say your friends expect you to be the bubbly person you used to pretend to be. What would happen if you stopped pretending? You may lose a few but then again you may be surprised and there may be a few true friends with unexpected depth. I hope that You will find what you need. I hope that I haven't said anything that is hurtful to you. I am here to listen if you need to post . As Cam pointed out there are people here that care.
Posted by Cynthia on March 15, 2000, at 10:44:14
In reply to Re: Is it all falling apart??, posted by Cynthia on March 14, 2000, at 12:16:40
> Nikki? Haven't seen you post- I am worried about you . Are you ok? Just wanted to let you know I am thinking about you.
Posted by Barbara on March 16, 2000, at 20:04:22
In reply to Nikki? Are you OK?, posted by Cynthia on March 15, 2000, at 10:44:14
Nikki,
So many of us have been where you are ...and worse. Tomorrow is another day - and nothing remains the same. One time I read that one should notice the small beautiful things that occur every day - there are small miracles - acts of love - for you to see and experience. I thought that was a pile - but it works. This message board is one of those miracles. Let the people here - the ones who really know where you are - help you through this. A long time ago, I realized that on the darkest and bleakest days there was so much beauty around me - the love of my children and friends - and other mirales that I normally was oblivious to - so look around you - and remember, Nikki- there is always hope. Never give up hope. God bless you.
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