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Posted by Jeroen on December 28, 2009, at 10:52:34
hi, why does everybody else is happy in my life???
and im not for 10 years
Posted by Phillipa on December 28, 2009, at 11:02:22
In reply to hi, why does everybody else is happy in my life???, posted by Jeroen on December 28, 2009, at 10:52:34
Jeroen I know what your're saying maybe they are not as happy as they appear? Phillipa
Posted by janejane on December 28, 2009, at 11:22:57
In reply to Re: hi, why does everybody else is happy in my life??? » Jeroen, posted by Phillipa on December 28, 2009, at 11:02:22
We're the unlucky ones, unfortunately. But maybe it makes us stronger.
Look at it this way, though. If everyone in your life was unhappy and grumpy, that'd probably make everything worse, wouldn't it? It's good to have some normal people around. They help us remember what it can be like and not give up hope. They can also help pick up the slack when we're not all that functional. ;-)
I think some people are just born with happy genes and have a naturally positive disposition. How I wish I could have been one of them!
Posted by inanimate peanut on December 28, 2009, at 13:44:31
In reply to hi, why does everybody else is happy in my life???, posted by Jeroen on December 28, 2009, at 10:52:34
I understand what you're saying though. Some days I resent everyone in the world who's not depressed. There were a couple people in my partial hospital program whose meds were working so they were no longer depressed and I wanted to be like "you're too happy. You annoy me. You need to go away." Sometimes I just have a pity party wondering why I have to be the one who got this crappy disorder while no one around me gets what it's like. I usually snap out of it after awhile, but I get your point.
Posted by Bob on December 28, 2009, at 14:17:28
In reply to Re: hi, why does everybody else is happy in my lif, posted by inanimate peanut on December 28, 2009, at 13:44:31
I struggle with this feeling almost every day. It is often overpowering and very difficult to deal with. If you look for it on the internet, tv and news, there is evidence that other people are going through similar things, but I can honestly say I don't personally know one other person who has endured anything like what my disease has done to me. If they are there, they're invisible to me personally.
It's brutal to be surrounded by people who are at a minimum functional, and in more than one case for my friends/family, very high functioning indeed. It means that holiday reunions and visits with family are an enormous, glaring spotlight on my utter incapability and lack of accomplishments. Of course, having depression makes this even worse because it causes me to reflect and ruminate on such things.
In essence, all the connection I have to others how have a problem even remotely similar to mine are almost abstract - like the people on this forum. I guess serious disease has always been like that and it's better now for people than ever before, but still it's rough.
Posted by janejane on December 28, 2009, at 16:08:47
In reply to Re: hi, why does everybody else is happy in my lif, posted by inanimate peanut on December 28, 2009, at 13:44:31
Well, I do understand what it's like when you see people laughing and having fun or even just doing everyday things and you wonder how they can do it when just getting through the day seems unbearable. It's very frustrating. There have been times when I couldn't even try to zone out by watching TV because the characters were so annoyingly carefree. But all of us are here to support one another, and we all know what it's like. No one should feel alone.
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