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Posted by malthus on September 28, 2004, at 20:52:44
I think I have recently alienated a friend. He was a cherished part of my life. Due to some medication adjustments this past weekend I wasn't myself and became very insecure and felt abandoned. I know now that I wasn't abandoned at the time. But now our communication has become almost argumentative, something I never thought would happen. I think he is angry with me for something I did when I just wasn't myself. I feel it's something I can never take back. I'm so sad about us. And to add insult to injury there is someone that I am almost certain is ecstatic about the undoing of my communication with him. I realize that I caused this to happen and that is the worst part of my grief. I am also grieving for having this stupid mental illness which causes me to cut and run the moment I don't feel accepted. It is very difficult to lose a friend and I will always wonder if he feels the same.
Posted by Atticus on September 29, 2004, at 14:32:30
In reply to Losing a friend, posted by malthus on September 28, 2004, at 20:52:44
Could be that he's as broken up about this as you are, and perhaps the hurt and confusion is making him so upset that he seems angry. Maybe he would love for you to re-establish contact. Have you tried e-mailing him? He might feel pretty abandoned himself (and might have abandonment issues of his own), and really want you to be part of his life again, whether you can bring yourself to believe that or not. Just a thought. Atticus
Posted by malthus on September 29, 2004, at 16:02:55
In reply to Re: Losing a friend » malthus, posted by Atticus on September 29, 2004, at 14:32:30
Thank you Atticus. Your advice is excellent and I have just done what you suggested. I do want to be part of his life again as much as I think he wants to be part of mine. Losing him would be excruciating.
malthus
Posted by Jai Narayan on October 5, 2004, at 18:10:27
In reply to Losing a friend, posted by malthus on September 28, 2004, at 20:52:44
> And to add insult to injury there is someone that I am almost certain is ecstatic about the undoing of my communication with him.
**In fact I was feeling sympathetic towards you and saddened by your situation. But was concerned that anything I had to say would be misinterpreted.
So I said nothing.
I am glad your communication with Atticus worked out for you.
Jai
Posted by Jai Narayan on October 6, 2004, at 20:38:35
In reply to Re: Losing a friend, posted by Jai Narayan on October 5, 2004, at 18:10:27
Posted by malthus on October 7, 2004, at 19:01:03
In reply to above message is for Maltus..... (nm), posted by Jai Narayan on October 6, 2004, at 20:38:35
Posted by Atticus on October 7, 2004, at 21:03:47
In reply to BTW--it's MALTHUS (nm) » Jai Narayan, posted by malthus on October 7, 2004, at 19:01:03
Posted by malthus on October 7, 2004, at 21:45:14
In reply to OK, kids, don't make me come down there ;) (nm), posted by Atticus on October 7, 2004, at 21:03:47
Posted by Jai Narayan on October 8, 2004, at 7:46:13
In reply to But Dad...LOOK... it really is M-A-L-T-H-U-S !! (nm) » Atticus, posted by malthus on October 7, 2004, at 21:45:14
> And to add insult to injury there is someone that I am almost certain is ecstatic about the undoing of my communication with him.
**In fact I was feeling sympathetic towards you and saddened by your situation. But was concerned that anything I had to say would be misinterpreted.
So I said nothing.
I am glad your communication with Atticus worked out for you.
Jai
Posted by malthus on October 8, 2004, at 10:51:55
In reply to I have dyslexia malthus what about my note......, posted by Jai Narayan on October 8, 2004, at 7:46:13
**In fact I was feeling sympathetic towards you and saddened by your situation. But was concerned that anything I had to say would be misinterpreted.
So I said nothing.<<I think it's better to risk being misinterpreted and if that is the case to then clarify one's intentions instead of remaining silent. But that's me.>>
malthus
Posted by Jai Narayan on October 8, 2004, at 13:00:52
In reply to Oh, about your note » Jai Narayan, posted by malthus on October 8, 2004, at 10:51:55
> **In fact I was feeling sympathetic towards you and saddened by your situation. But was concerned that anything I had to say would be misinterpreted.
> So I said nothing.
>
> <<I think it's better to risk being misinterpreted and if that is the case to then clarify one's intentions instead of remaining silent. But that's me.>>
>> malthus** I was too afraid earlier but I got my courage up and posted.
thanks for reponding to my post.
Jai
Posted by Shar on October 9, 2004, at 0:29:52
In reply to I was too afraid earlier but I got my courage up, posted by Jai Narayan on October 8, 2004, at 13:00:52
I'm glad you did, Jai!
Shar
Posted by Jai Narayan on October 9, 2004, at 7:28:51
In reply to I was too afraid earlier but I got my courage up » Jai Narayan, posted by Shar on October 9, 2004, at 0:29:52
> I'm glad you did, Jai!
> Shar
okay that brought tears to my eyes.
I needed support so badly and I didn't even know it.
I will not forget your kindness....
my heart feels lightened.
:*)
Jai
Posted by Jai Narayan on October 9, 2004, at 12:11:41
In reply to Re: I was too afraid earlier but I got my courage up, posted by Jai Narayan on October 9, 2004, at 7:28:51
Posted by Dazey1 on April 21, 2006, at 13:42:21
In reply to Losing a friend, posted by malthus on September 28, 2004, at 20:52:44
Hi Malthus-
It is 2006 and
I just happened to see this post.
If by any chance in a million years this is Matt would you please email me? (I have kept the same email address as always)
If it is not then just let me say I had lost a beloved person in my life cold turkey style(he used to post online with the name Malthus and that is why I thought it could possibly be you.)
All I can tell you is it is the most painful emotional experience to lose someone that way -so if you can get back in touch with your friend please do so.
Best of luck in any event.
Dazey1
Posted by Dazey1 on April 21, 2006, at 13:45:02
In reply to Re: Losing a friend, posted by Dazey1 on April 21, 2006, at 13:42:21
Thankyou for reading it.
This is the end of the thread.
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