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Posted by Miss Honeychurch on May 20, 2004, at 14:41:57
My T said he thought about me over the weekend. Good Lord, I can't take this like a normal person, I have to be on Cloud 9 for the rest of the afternoon. ANyway, I've been dealing with some nonsense with my father lately and my T said he had a really good visit with his Dad over the weeekend and thought about me a lot, how my situation made him realize how wonderful his relationship is with his father. And then he thanked me. And now you would think I had won the Pulitzer Prize or something.
Posted by Racer on May 20, 2004, at 15:46:05
In reply to How pathetic is this?!, posted by Miss Honeychurch on May 20, 2004, at 14:41:57
I really am laughing. I'd be on cloud nine, myself, and while my value for a Reasonable Person test is questionable at best, I think it's a sign of a good therapeutic relationship. I envy you for that.
Again, I may not be a good test, but I say congratulations on having a good relationship with your therapist.
Posted by Miss Honeychurch on May 20, 2004, at 15:53:13
In reply to LOL! Not very » Miss Honeychurch, posted by Racer on May 20, 2004, at 15:46:05
I feel we do have a wonderful relationship, but I also know I make mountains out of molehills. I'll just appreciate the moment while I can.
Posted by pinkeye on May 20, 2004, at 15:57:16
In reply to Re: LOL! Not very » Racer, posted by Miss Honeychurch on May 20, 2004, at 15:53:13
I think that is a very important statement coming from your therapist. If I were you, I would treasure that very much :-)
Posted by Dinah on May 21, 2004, at 11:39:24
In reply to How pathetic is this?!, posted by Miss Honeychurch on May 20, 2004, at 14:41:57
That sort of thing makes happiness bubble up in me.
Posted by babbgal on May 21, 2004, at 12:49:54
In reply to Re: LOL! Not very, posted by pinkeye on May 20, 2004, at 15:57:16
Miss H., I agree with the gang here. Appreciate the honesty from your T. and take it as a sign of a strong relationship. :)
I had a similar thing happen with my T. recently. He told me he spent one weekend attending continuing-education seminars, and because of particular issues I discuss with him concerning my husband, he chose one particular seminar to attend, on the subject of couples issues in therapy. (Though I see my T. alone, not with my husband.)
He said the seminar was great, taught by a wonderful doctor, and the discussion brought up some new ways of thinking in the current therapeutic environment and literature. Then he thanked me for being his inspiration. That was kind of cool, I thought.
Posted by Aphrodite on May 21, 2004, at 14:35:28
In reply to How pathetic is this?!, posted by Miss Honeychurch on May 20, 2004, at 14:41:57
I would be thrilled, and I would feel very important. It's nice to be able to give something back.
Posted by DaisyM on May 21, 2004, at 15:43:27
In reply to How pathetic is this?!, posted by Miss Honeychurch on May 20, 2004, at 14:41:57
Enjoy the moment. I think it would be a compliment no matter who said it. It does speak highly of your relationship, including the fact that he was comfortable enought to TELL you he thought about you. I'm glad you have him.
Nice to see you posting too, btw...
Posted by Racer on May 21, 2004, at 18:47:55
In reply to Re: LOL! Not very, posted by babbgal on May 21, 2004, at 12:49:54
That is very cool, babbgal.
Here's another thought, based on my current situation:
My current and soon to be former therapist is trying to build that kind of relationship with me. She's trying to build trust. She's trying to make me believe that she is there, supportive, all the things that I think you're all saying you feel for your therapists. The problem is, rather than doing much of anything, she *says* 'I really care what happens to you, Racer.' Now, I've been as open as I am capable of being at this point -- ie: not very -- and have told her as much as I could about my experiences with people who say things like, "I want to help you," or "I really care what happens to you," or "I only want the best for you," or anything at all that sounds remotely like that. Short answer: that was always the prelude to something worse happening to me, which always included betrayal by the person who had said that. Sure, that makes it harder for a therapist to work with me. So does the fact that I do not show things on the surface. And then I have the whole guilt thing about it not being the therapist's job to work as hard as it takes to gain my trust enough for me to work effectively in therapy.
Anyway, I just told you that to give you another perspective on your own situations: you have a good, strong, important relationship with your therapists. That's something to celebrate, not something to feel pathetic about!
Posted by Miss Honeychurch on May 23, 2004, at 20:29:32
In reply to Re: LOL! Not very, posted by Racer on May 21, 2004, at 18:47:55
Racer, good point for sure. I will not feel pathetic! I will celebrate! I am so fortunate to have found him and so fortunate to have a group of friends on babble who are not afraid to share experiences and support eachother.
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