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Posted by terrics on May 20, 2004, at 16:33:45
I had to give up my beloved T. because I have to use the DBT T. It seems that the DBT T. will be much more helpful, I hope. She is direct and she gets to the bottom of things whether you want to or not. It's in her wording. The big thing in DBT is to stop suicide attempts and SI. She is bugging the life out of me about the SI. I don't want to give it up. I do not care if I lose phone privleges. There are a billion other things I need help with and then maybe I could stop. She says it has to work the other way. She already cancelled one appt. [you know how most of us get when a T cancels] Well I S.Id. The following week she asked if I did and why. I told her yes but could not tell her why which messed up the DBT. How could I tell her something so stupid as a cancelled appt. was that upsetting. I thought she was going to dump me already and that is why she cancelled. ps. Old T. and I are going out to lunch. terrics
Posted by lifeworthliving on May 20, 2004, at 22:59:46
In reply to One T. left/**trigger***?, posted by terrics on May 20, 2004, at 16:33:45
<<<<ps. Old T. and I are going out to lunch. terrics>>>
it would be so weird to have lunch with my t. how do you feel about this? i won't be surprised if i have lunch with my t when this is all over. i can tell she likes me - i like that!
will this be your first encounter with her on the other side of the couch?
Posted by terrics on May 21, 2004, at 14:33:37
In reply to Re: One T. left/**trigger***?, posted by lifeworthliving on May 20, 2004, at 22:59:46
hi, I used to work with my T. 30 yrs. ago, but we were never friends until now. And yes it will feel weird going to lunch with her. I feel she has the power because she was my T. I won't know what to talk about. P.S. I don't think the new T likes me. Oh well. Hope you get to go out with your T. too. terrics
Posted by cubic_me on May 21, 2004, at 15:09:08
In reply to One T. left/**trigger***?, posted by terrics on May 20, 2004, at 16:33:45
Did you choose to see the DBT T or do you have to see her? In my experience the more someone makes a big deal of my SI, the more hidden it become from them and everyone else. Maybe you could try talking to her about how little going round in circles about your SI is doing you. SI is a coping mechanism, and you need to strengthen your other ones and aquire some more before you able to leave SI for good.
I know that this might be completely counter-productive, but what would happen if you said that you hadn't SIed and hadn't had the urge to? Would she concentrate on the other issues then?
Posted by DaisyM on May 21, 2004, at 15:20:21
In reply to One T. left/**trigger***?, posted by terrics on May 20, 2004, at 16:33:45
Terrics,
I know how hard that decision must have been for you. I hope lunch provides closure for the theraputic relationship and you get what you need from her.
As far as the new Therapist, I'm sure she doesn't dislike you. Can it be you projecting some of your ambivalence about the 2 Therapist here? And, I think you should tell her a missed session upset you. How can she help you if she doesn't know?
When my Therapist got sick earlier this year, it really threw me. He couldn't help that he had the flu but there is so much serious illness in my life that it freaked me out. My way of coping was to pull way back away, inside myself. Missing appointments does effect us, even if we don't want it to, think it shouldn't or not understand why. Don't beat yourself up over it. But share it so you can figure it out.
Please take care of yourself.
Posted by terrics on May 22, 2004, at 15:54:27
In reply to Re: One T. left/**trigger***? » terrics, posted by cubic_me on May 21, 2004, at 15:09:08
Hi Cubic, I thought the same thing about fixing other problems and the SI would fix it self. Thank you for your insight. I won't lie about not SI ing. DBT is supposed to be such a good program that I don't want to start by messing it up. terrics
Posted by terrics on May 22, 2004, at 15:57:29
In reply to Re: One T. left/**trigger***?, posted by DaisyM on May 21, 2004, at 15:20:21
Hi Daisy, You are so sweet. Maybe I will tell her about the cancelling bothering me. I cannot read her even though I've been very good at reading other Ts I have had. thanks terrics
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