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Posted by Dis Traught on January 28, 2007, at 11:27:03
Hi,
I know I need therapy. It's just that a number of years ago, when I entered therapy , I felt increasingly attracted to my T. As I knew little about therapy, I discussed it w a friend, who was very much into therapy, psychology lit and so on. So I told my friend how tense I was to felt before sessions, and she said: "Great! Tell him! It means that the therapy is working! It's called transference. It's important you bring it out into the open". So, I went to the next session and owned up to feeling very attracted. He then said "Thank God! I thought you'd never say anything! Shall we go out and get some coffee?!"
Within a week we had sex. We were both married. In retrospect, I realise I was in dire need of being validated, because I had been very neglected as a child. Imagine my therapist wanting me, low-esteem, madness and all.
It wasn't worth it. To those of you who would like a relationship with your T, you should know that it makes it hard to trust people afterwards.Penny
Posted by ElaineM on January 28, 2007, at 13:05:10
In reply to Sex with therapist, posted by Dis Traught on January 28, 2007, at 11:27:03
Penny, thank you for trusting us enough to tell that - like you said, It must be so hard to. And you've been wondering if you have enough to need therapy? I can't believe you still have an open mind when it comes to it. You're amazing!
Are you scared to try and go back into therapy now? Would you ever tell a new T about what happened? Did you report him? How much time has passed since then? Are you only looking for a female T now? Oh my goodness, I have so many questions, but I won't push you. [and feel free to not answer anything I've asked] I haven't slept with my T or kissed him, but we have a "less than normal" relationship. I'm so curious about what happens after its been done - and after it all ends (for whatever reason).
Have you ever told anyone before (like a non-professional)? ....I'll stop here cause I'm just gonna start spewing questions again.I think you're one brave woman. Thanks for sharing. *safe hugs* for you.
blove, El
Posted by Dis Traught on January 28, 2007, at 14:58:24
In reply to Sex with therapist, posted by Dis Traught on January 28, 2007, at 11:27:03
What can I say? My T was soon ridden with remorse: He knew he could lose his licence, his reputation, and last but not least, his livelihood could be threatened. His wife, a doctor, would no doubt leave him. He panicked, leaving me with a sense of guilt (yes, I PROMISED not to tell on him). It left me with a bitter taste; first he abandoned me as a T, then as a woman. I wouldn't go down that road if I could choose today, I'd simply leave the therapy.
Penny
Posted by inimitable on January 28, 2007, at 19:35:55
In reply to Re: Sex with therapist))Elaine, posted by Dis Traught on January 28, 2007, at 14:58:24
oh wow! well, way back when i first started therapy (a year ago, just about exactly), a couple months in i started feeling for my T. he is only a grad student at my university, so he's only a couple years older than me, and very cute. and this past summer was especially agonizing...i was pineing over him, aching deep inside because i knew i could never be with him, either sexually or hanging out after session! but i've gotten past that, and these past few months have been especially hard for me, seeing as how i was suicidal (with serious thought) for the first time in my life....and it felt great having my T around....i would be dead without him i am sure. so yes, i am sooo glad nothing ever happened between us, because, well, now i love him, i think, in a way so powerful....and by me being able to trust him, i'm learning that i could possibly feel this way for someone else, romantically.
i am sorry for your experience, gosh, it must be so hard to even imagine tryng therapy again, with your experience, but not all of them will be like your old one!
*inimitable
Posted by widget on February 3, 2007, at 4:22:04
In reply to Sex with therapist, posted by Dis Traught on January 28, 2007, at 11:27:03
Dear Penny, I just read your statement recommended by Caraher. I am sorry your relationship made it hard for you to trust people. Can you tell me more about that? This is exactly what I am trying to figure out? What happens to patient who enters into a romantic/sexual relationship with the therapist? You have been there and can explain better than anyone. Please advise. Thanks. Widget
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