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Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 25, 2007, at 9:08:25
So I've noticed an interesting trend lately
1) I want to feel connected to something 'familiar' because of all the turmoil around me. I wake up not knowing which way the window is and not knowing who's bed I'm in (mine, just to clarify)
2) I want people to care about me
3) I don't want people to worry about me
4) I don't want anyone to care for me unless they are doctors or my husband
5) I want to have friends, including babble friends
6) I get satisfaction from responding to someone else's posts and the feeling that maybe I said something that helps them in some minute fashion.
So, this leads up to a big polynomial with lots of
points of inflection. Goes something like this.*Increased posting when I feel better [mostly to support others]
*Decreased posting when I start to feel poorly, unless I need more specific info on meds, in which case I'll drop a line on /psychobabble
*Increased posting when I notice that the "feeling poorly" is leading to lack of good judgement. The exercise of supporting others helps snap me back into "good judgment" shape
*Increased posting when I find a way of talking about myself in some dry clinical term
*Decreased posting when I find that I'm struggling with T-me relationship.
*Increased posting when T and Me are clicking and insights are being made
*Increased posting when I feel incipient crisis
*Decreased posting when I feel in the midst of crisis.
*Trick posting when I'm in the midst of crisis but don't want babblefriends to know about it. I'll get all "empirical on their *sses" retreat to the realm of science and away from feelings and uncertainties
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The reason why I'm starting this thread is two-fold.1) to help me understand how I can be a more consistent poster and learn to reach out to my T and pdoc in real life when I'm feeling very bad (like right now)
2) to help me put together a little paragraph on some of the factors that lead different posters to post more or less frequently. This is in preparation for the American Psychiatric Association (APA) conference in May. Dr. Bob wants to submit a proposal for a workshop about some of the issues of participating in a message board about mental health. Read more here.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20070702/msgs/770372.html
Thanks for your input, even if it's only a line.
-Ll
Posted by Phillipa on July 25, 2007, at 11:58:21
In reply to Posting lots vs. posting little, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 25, 2007, at 9:08:25
Lurpsie I answered on meds but your reasons for posting are exactly mine too. Now there must be a connection don't you think? For the reasons? Love Phillipa
Posted by peddidle on July 25, 2007, at 13:31:21
In reply to Posting lots vs. posting little, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 25, 2007, at 9:08:25
A lot of what you wrote sounds very familiar. I find that I often post less at the exact times when I should be posting more (i.e. when I'm feeling especially bad). I think it has to do with not having the energy or the patience to type up how I'm feeling. At those times, I also feel like any advice I give would be stupid and pointless, or I would unintentionally "hijack" someones thread, so I just avoid it all together.
This is not a hard and fast rule, however. There are times when I post because I know it will help me to put my feeling and thoughts into words. Sometimes trying to answer someone else's post helps me at those times as well, not only because it makes me feel better to know I might be helping someone, but also because I sometimes figure things out for myself in the process.... speaking of which....
I think not posting might have something to do with my desire to procrastinate and isolate myself during especially difficult times. I don't even have to leave my room to post on babble, so maybe I use it as a step towards being productive and [somewhat] social.
Posted by ClearSkies on July 25, 2007, at 14:41:48
In reply to Posting lots vs. posting little, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 25, 2007, at 9:08:25
I thought I would add my comments to your increase/decrease posting notes.
> *Increased posting when I feel better [mostly to support others]
Same for me.
> *Decreased posting when I start to feel poorly, unless I need more specific info on meds, in which case I'll drop a line on /psychobabble
Same for me.
> *Increased posting when I notice that the "feeling poorly" is leading to lack of good judgement. The exercise of supporting others helps snap me back into "good judgment" shape
Nope. Increased posting while experiencing poor judgement for me is usually indicative of a period of manic behaviour. Usually followed by a "please be civil" and a withdrawal by me from the boards if I'm feeling slightly sensible, or I go straight to further infractions. A horrible time for me.
> *Increased posting when I find a way of talking about myself in some dry clinical term
Nope, never happened. I'm nowhere near clinical. Always episodic in my posting.>
> *Decreased posting when I find that I'm struggling with T-me relationship.
I hardly ever post on this board. Can't really comment on that relationship except to say that I don't actively cultivate one.
> *Increased posting when T and Me are clicking and insights are being made
Yes, I do this.
> *Increased posting when I feel incipient crisis
Sometimes I do this, but not recently. (Haven't felt safe enough at babble?)
> *Decreased posting when I feel in the midst of crisis.
Most definitely.
> *Trick posting when I'm in the midst of crisis but don't want babblefriends to know about it. I'll get all "empirical on their *sses" retreat to the realm of science and away from feelings and uncertainties
I send babblemails or emails when I'm in distress. It's not the smartest thing for me to do. I should be posting and reaching out further/farther for help instead of putting pressure on a few people. I rarely if ever make phone calls and when in crisis will not answer the phone, so babble is it for me, really.Thanks again, Llurpsie. I also responded on the main medication board.
CS
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