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Posted by Annierose on August 6, 2008, at 8:23:33
In reply to Re: Definitely time to open Camp Comfort, posted by 10derHeart on August 6, 2008, at 1:56:05
Don't apologize. I totally get what you are saying ... it makes perfect sense to me so it's not weird (grin).
I love how your therapist is taking care of you since you moved. It's nice that he is allowing the e-mails and left you that voice mail.
Since grief is so painful, have you thought of finding a therapist in your new area to help you with the loss and/or to continue the work?
Posted by Annierose on August 6, 2008, at 8:27:56
In reply to My T is on vacation too, posted by Partlycloudy on August 5, 2008, at 17:29:25
I'll be joining Camp Comfort next week ... new arrivals are welcomed daily.
This is becoming annual poor planning on my part ... when my therapist gets back from vacation, I will be gone on vacation ... so I won't see her until after Labor Day. (But I do get to visit Daisy ... so it's like REAL CAMP COMFORT FOR ME for a few days before the vacation with my in-laws/out-laws begins ...)
Posted by raisinb on August 6, 2008, at 9:50:00
In reply to Re: Definitely time to open Camp Comfort, posted by 10derHeart on August 6, 2008, at 1:56:05
10der, don't feel bad for saying that. I'd feel the same way. As a matter of fact, sometimes I feel a little ashamed of breaking down over all the issues with my therapist, when there are people here whose therapists have abruptly left--emotionally or physically.
It sounds like you and your therapist have a wonderful bond. Not too many therapists would do what he is doing. And I'm sure you don't have to apologize to him for it. He is doing it because he wants to and because he cares.
I'm sorry he's on vacation. Sounds like it's bringing up all the feelings related to leaving him all over again. I know it feels like for you, he won't come back--but he will, right? not in person, but he'll continue to be there for you long-distance. Hang in there and take care of yourself.
Posted by Partlycloudy on August 6, 2008, at 9:54:41
In reply to Definitely time to open Camp Comfort, posted by Dinah on August 5, 2008, at 21:16:03
I'll bring a quilt so old it's softened to flannel. Lightweight and cuddly. A bowl of raspberries with seeds that never get caught in our teeth. Some bluegrass music to listen to. A pond to look out over. Some iced tea brewing slowly to sweeten or not as we see fit.
I'll be right there.
Posted by antigua3 on August 6, 2008, at 9:58:31
In reply to Definitely time to open Camp Comfort, posted by Dinah on August 5, 2008, at 21:16:03
I want chocolate. Milk chocolate. M&Ms maybe, and some good books. The weather has to be warm so the sun feels good on my face, but not so hot that I'm uncomfortable. The nights should be cold. Comforter required; a really, nice cozy one and a pleasant room to sleep in, one that will let the morning light come streaming in.
for breakfast, I want us all to get together for coffee or tea, so we can talk & and have stimulating conversations in our comfy clothes without worrying what we look like; we can just be ourselves.
Oh, and a place to take nice long walks, along the water.
That's what I want,
antigua
Posted by antigua3 on August 6, 2008, at 10:24:25
In reply to Re: Definitely time to open Camp Comfort, posted by antigua3 on August 6, 2008, at 9:58:31
I just described how it is when I go to my mother's!!!!
antigua
Posted by Nadezda on August 6, 2008, at 10:56:29
In reply to Scary thought, posted by antigua3 on August 6, 2008, at 10:24:25
What is it with these Ts and August. Is there some unspoken law that all Ts have to leave town at the same time? Is it mass hysteria?
My t always says he can't have anyone cover for him-- because no one he knows is around. Unless I press him really hard, he can't come up with a name. Maybe he's particularly resistant to it-- and actually I don't think anyone else could come into the situation and say much. But in principle, it's important to have someone cover.
Seriously though-- even though they need the break-- there should be a limit on time length of it, I think. Four weeks is too much (IMO). Not when you have people really depending on your consistence and presence.
Mine does keep in touch-- and I hope all of them make some effort to be at least a little available-- to email, letters, or the occasional phone call to their voicemail. The abruptness and completeness of their absence otherwise seems awfully harsh.
Nadezda
Posted by Dinah on August 6, 2008, at 11:38:23
In reply to Re: Definitely time to open Camp Comfort, posted by 10derHeart on August 6, 2008, at 1:56:05
I can certainly understand. It would hurt me so much to not see my therapist in person.
You really have something special. Your therapist is staying in contact in a way that many or most therapists wouldn't. My therapist, when he was gone to Europe, emailed me so briefly and formally that I rather wish he hadn't bothered. You may feel envious of people with therapists, but I feel envious of you. He really does care about you, person to person.
I know you know that. And it probably doesn't help to point it out. It probably just makes it harder in some ways.
It really does stink in some ways, this therapy relationship.
Posted by Lucie Lu on August 6, 2008, at 12:24:40
In reply to Definitely time to open Camp Comfort, posted by Dinah on August 5, 2008, at 21:16:03
Please accept my enrollment application for as many sessions as can be squeezed in during the month of August. I promise to be a good camper. When we go swimming I will try not to go off the deep end. I will also bring something to the picnic. Can I bring finger food? I am very regressed.Love, Lucie Lu
Posted by Fallsfall on August 7, 2008, at 7:10:40
In reply to Dear Camp Comfort... » Dinah, posted by Lucie Lu on August 6, 2008, at 12:24:40
Today is my last session before my therapist goes on vacation for two weeks.
I'm going to bring my Wii with DDR to Camp Comfort. Does anyone else have a DDR mat to bring? It is really fun when two people (try to) do it at the same time.
See you there!
Posted by onceupon on August 7, 2008, at 10:27:56
In reply to Re: Dear Camp Comfort..., posted by Fallsfall on August 7, 2008, at 7:10:40
Can I join in as a temporary enrollee? My therapist isn't on vacation (that's in 2 weeks), but she just called and cancelled on me for today. Not fair to cancel so close to her vacation :(
I'll bring the perfect cherries I have in my refrigerator and some sand. I'd like the feeling of warm sand under my feet right now.
Posted by Nadezda on August 7, 2008, at 11:06:27
In reply to Re: Definitely time to open Camp Comfort » 10derHeart, posted by Dinah on August 6, 2008, at 11:38:23
I propose that we have a meditation or mindfulness group here. We can do all sorts of useful practices to turn out minds to something other than our Ts or our sense of abandonment or loss.
It doesn't need to be a large group. One or two other people besides me would be great.
Nadezda
Posted by antigua3 on August 7, 2008, at 14:05:07
In reply to Re: Definitely time to open Camp Comfort, posted by Nadezda on August 7, 2008, at 11:06:27
Count me in.
antigua
Posted by Suedehead on August 7, 2008, at 18:58:09
In reply to Re: Dear Camp Comfort..., posted by Fallsfall on August 7, 2008, at 7:10:40
Count me in at Camp Comfort too, please! For the next 10 days...
And Fallsfall, I love DDR, so I will definitely play with you.
Posted by Lucie Lu on August 7, 2008, at 20:21:25
In reply to Re: Dear Camp Comfort..., posted by Suedehead on August 7, 2008, at 18:58:09
OK, I'll bite... what is DDR?
Posted by Suedehead on August 7, 2008, at 20:44:20
In reply to Re: Dear Camp Comfort... » Suedehead, posted by Lucie Lu on August 7, 2008, at 20:21:25
>
> OK, I'll bite... what is DDR?It's a video game. Basically, you jump around on a platform that has four arrows on it (up, down, left, right) while listening to music and watching a video screen that shows you which arrows you're supposed to hit. It's a lot of fun and can get pretty tricky/fast depending on the song/level you're playing.
Posted by Lucie Lu on August 7, 2008, at 20:51:19
In reply to Re: Dear Camp Comfort... » Lucie Lu, posted by Suedehead on August 7, 2008, at 20:44:20
Thanks, Suedehead. Sounds like fun... like a whole body version of Guitar Hero :)
Posted by Suedehead on August 7, 2008, at 21:01:22
In reply to Re: Dear Camp Comfort... » Suedehead, posted by Lucie Lu on August 7, 2008, at 20:51:19
> Thanks, Suedehead. Sounds like fun... like a whole body version of Guitar Hero :)
Yeah, that's exactly what it's like!
Posted by backseatdriver on August 8, 2008, at 15:07:58
In reply to Re: Dear Camp Comfort... » Lucie Lu, posted by Suedehead on August 7, 2008, at 21:01:22
Dear Camp Comfort,
I would like to apply for a four-week stay.
My therapist has left for a month, and thanks to his lousy standard of care, I feel entitled to certain extra privileges, rather small ones really: a reduced fee, on-demand housekeeping, knitting and foreign language lessons, a DIFFERENT therapist who sees only me for as long as I want every day, and my own cabana. Please also send me a kitten.
I look forward to enjoying your 100,000-volume library of world literature.
You asked what I would like for breakfast. Please deliver to my room: fresh fruit, coffee, apple-cinnamon oatmeal (homemade, not from a mix), icelandic yogurt.
For the turndown service, please leave a cold bottle of Veuve in the ice bucket, and a few squares of Vosges chocolate (sea salt and almond) under my pillow, along with an Ativan. Every night.
I love Camp Comfort!
Yours in August naughtiness,
BSD
Posted by Dinah on August 8, 2008, at 15:09:48
In reply to Re: Dear Camp Comfort... » Lucie Lu, posted by Suedehead on August 7, 2008, at 21:01:22
He'll be away for no longer a week on vacation in September, but he's not sure when.
I think I'd like Camp Comfort to be in the mountains. Mountains or waterfalls would help more than anything.
Posted by gardenergirl on August 8, 2008, at 16:23:09
In reply to I need a room in September, posted by Dinah on August 8, 2008, at 15:09:48
Maybe I can run the place???? :D
gg
Posted by TherapyGirl on August 8, 2008, at 16:51:30
In reply to No more T and looking for a job..., posted by gardenergirl on August 8, 2008, at 16:23:09
Can I be the Assistant Director? I need something to work on during my 6-8 week therapy break.
Posted by Dinah on August 8, 2008, at 17:13:18
In reply to No more T and looking for a job..., posted by gardenergirl on August 8, 2008, at 16:23:09
That'd be great, you guys!
But not very comforting for you.
I'm sorry about your therapist, gg.
Posted by Daisym on August 9, 2008, at 0:37:12
In reply to No more T and looking for a job..., posted by gardenergirl on August 8, 2008, at 16:23:09
I have two openings - but you'd have to use both your hats. I'd love it though if you would run camp comfort. What an awesome idea...a place to go when your therapist is away - we'd make a fortune. :)
Posted by LadyBug on August 9, 2008, at 14:12:44
In reply to No more T and looking for a job..., posted by gardenergirl on August 8, 2008, at 16:23:09
I'll be the coordinator of activities.
I'll make sure everyone is comfortable and happy! Lots of different choices. Movies, music, good food,drinks, sit by a fire pit at night and roast our T's. Talk into the wee hours of the night, no one to tell us our hour is up!
I think I'm already there with ya! And it feels great!
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