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Posted by Kenya on June 17, 2009, at 13:07:40
Hi Everyone,
I've been kind of M.I.A. lately, but I wanted to see if anyone can answer a quick question.
I usually see my T every Tuesday and Saturday. During the summer, my job gets hectic and I need to reschedule every once in a while. I used to just cancel because I thought that was easier for her, but she said she doesn't want me to miss sessions, so I should reschedule.
This week will be the third time in the past couple of months that I've needed to reschedule. She has also rescheduled appointments, and shown up late twice. I always call way more than 24 hours before my appt. Lately, she hasn't been responding, resulting in a follow up call from me the day before my next appt, saying "i never heard from you about rescheduling. I will plan on seeing you tomorrow unless I hear otherwise."
I called her on Monday morning, told her that I couldn't make it Tuesday and I would love to reschedule because I'm having a rough couple of weeks, and I will be gone for 10 days starting this weekend. I told her I was available for a mid-day session or evening session any other day this week.
I haven't heard from her at all, and knowing her, if I haven't heard from her by now, I probably won't. She used to call me back right away, and always seemed like she wanted to see me, talk to me.. just cared, you know?
So here's my question (sorry it wasn't so quick)... Do you think she's just lost interest in me or gotten too comfortable? It's been almost 2 years, and it just seems like she doesn't want to see me or hear from me anymore. It's' a weird feeling. I'm not usually very needy. I'm just trying to interpret her response...
Thanks for reading...
~ Kenya
Posted by antigua3 on June 17, 2009, at 14:55:38
In reply to T Not Rescheduling, posted by Kenya on June 17, 2009, at 13:07:40
Try not to worry about it too much. My T is like this. She usually calls me every week to ask if I'm coming, even though we talked about it at the last session. Sometimes she even calls twice to confirm an appt, and I'm reminded how scatterbrained she is. Sometimes she doesn't call at all, or forgets that I called. But it all works out in the end.
So, no, I don't think she's tired of you, etc., I think she's probably pretty busy. Does she have kids? If she does, school just got out and that adds another layer of chaos.
Try to call her again, and know that I understand how you feel. BTW, my T never used to be like this; it's only in the last year or two and she has had "extenuating" circumstances that I've been able to attribute this behavior to, and I don't take it personally anymore.
antigua
Posted by Kenya on June 17, 2009, at 15:06:18
In reply to Re: T Not Rescheduling » Kenya, posted by antigua3 on June 17, 2009, at 14:55:38
Thanks Antigua,
She doesn't have kids, but I know she's been busy. I will try not to take it personally. Thank you for understanding :) I'll give it some time and maybe talk to her about it a little. I guess that's what therapy is for after all. This whole "expression of feelings".. ugh.. who wants to do that?! LOL
Thank you again,
Kenya
Posted by Annierose on June 17, 2009, at 17:18:42
In reply to Re: T Not Rescheduling » antigua3, posted by Kenya on June 17, 2009, at 15:06:18
My first thought was the same as Antigua's --- with kids home from school it's crazy re-adjusting my work schedule.
Okay - so she doesn't have that excuse. But she could be super busy with life, work or both and she is having a hard time balancing both. A few years back I had a similar feeling and I remember opening the session with "I feel like you don't have time for me anymore." It led to a productive session.
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