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Posted by Dewwd on July 1, 2009, at 13:02:44
Hey guys! i hope ur all dong super good. Im kinda new here but these forums have been really helpful, especially because you guys are so kind to each other, its really like something new to me lol. Well lets see ( my earlier post got erased or something im trying to remember what i wrote) oh yeah, well ,ive been metting with my t for like about a year now. Wow, she is just amazing, i mean at first you know how bumpy things, are , sometimes youre going aaahhh!! in your head, but now it feels like i can trust her to like me regardless of what mood im in at the moment. She tells me, lol dont worry about feeling bad, i like to hear the good things, but i want to hear what you have been struggling with so that we can talk about them lol
Well she was on vacation like a little while ago, and lol u know i realized that i have deeper feelings for her than i thought, so i drew her a picture ( that took many many hours of hard labor lol) and wrote her name with butterflies and sunflower pedals, she really loved it and she said it made her day!!
hahaha sorry everyone i guess my question ( which i feel a little bit silly asking after reading what i just typed) its been bothering me somewhat, because i read some posts of some body here like in the 06 archives or something, saying that he thought his t didtn really care about him but was in it for the money?? im really really sure that my t is true at heart about her clients, she really does care about them, because she had to miss a day for jury duty and called me saying that she felt guilty for doing that. is my post easy to follow, i hope so what do you guys think about this with ur t??
sorry it was long
Dewwd
Posted by Dinah on July 1, 2009, at 17:47:30
In reply to Q about T relationships (kinda new here lol), posted by Dewwd on July 1, 2009, at 13:02:44
Hello and welcome!
It's an issue that I think many of us grapple with. They're seeing us for money and if we didn't pay them they wouldn't see us. So how can they care?
Yet people do care about one another, even in a professional setting. And this setting is so very intimate, it seems natural that personal feelings would be involved. My therapist once said that if he didn't care about someone, he wouldn't be a very good therapist to them. I'm still thinking that one over.
Teachers care about their students, and somehow that isn't nearly as hard to believe. Maybe because it isn't as direct a transfer of money?
After all these years, I really do know that my therapist cares about me on many levels. Yet that money thing keeps tripping me up too, even now.
Posted by antigua3 on July 1, 2009, at 19:11:28
In reply to Q about T relationships (kinda new here lol), posted by Dewwd on July 1, 2009, at 13:02:44
You seem to have a very devoted T. You're lucky.
Money is a huge issue for me, especially now that I don't have a job and I feel like going to therapy is taking food off the table (OK, yes, that sounds like self pity).
My T has been great about this, but I fear I'm going to have to give up my pdoc because money is very important to him and he refuses to make any sort of accommodation to my reduced circumstances and his fee is already outrageous. I figure I have about two sessions left before we have to deal with this, but yes, I do think some of it are in it for the money. They have to support their own lives and individual practices are very expensive. While I intellectually understand, I'm emotionally very upset about this.
So enjoy that you have a good T.
antigua
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