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Posted by Lamdage22 on February 24, 2016, at 8:50:08
I didnt talk to anyone about it for years now.. Prostitution is legal here and i go to this brothel alot.
It seems kind of addiction like. I self loathe and the girls want more and more money. This one particular girl told me her mom was in hospital and she needs money for the hospital. I have no idea if she is playing with me or if it is for real.
In the beginning, she took about 2-4 times as much money as other girls in the brothel (which is against the rules), yet she now tells me that she is broke. When i told her that i dont want to pay that high amount she said "its ok i want you, not your money". Which was probably a big fat lie. But i bought it somehow and now she wants big time money which she says is for her sick mother.
So there are negative consequences to my behavior yet i seem unable to stop. The walls are closing in.
I am calling a therapist tomorrow. I need to talk about this.
Posted by Tabitha on February 24, 2016, at 14:03:39
In reply to Addictive behavior, posted by Lamdage22 on February 24, 2016, at 8:50:08
> This one particular girl told me her mom was in hospital and she needs money for the hospital. I have no idea if she is playing with me or if it is for real.Yuck, that sounds like a classic romance scam tactic, asking for money for a sick relative.
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> she said "its ok i want you, not your money". Which was probably a big fat lie.Your instincts are likely correct here. Obviously she wants your money. That's what strippers and such do for a living. They have to hustle men for extra money by flattering them. I assume their base pay just isn't enough.
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> So there are negative consequences to my behavior yet i seem unable to stop. The walls are closing in.It's very difficult when a relationship that started out benefiting you transitions to hurting you more and more. It's hard to navigate. I personally really hate the feeling of being taken advantage of financially, so that's a big red flag for me and I would take steps to end it.
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> I am calling a therapist tomorrow. I need to talk about this.
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>Good, I hope you get some assistance.
Posted by baseball55 on February 24, 2016, at 18:59:04
In reply to Addictive behavior, posted by Lamdage22 on February 24, 2016, at 8:50:08
Asking for extra money for a sick mother is the oldest scam in the book. Saying I want you, not your money, except I need your money is another one. Going to a therapist and trying to get a realistic perspective on what's going on seems worthwhile.
Posted by Lamdage22 on February 25, 2016, at 3:53:51
In reply to Re: Addictive behavior » Lamdage22, posted by baseball55 on February 24, 2016, at 18:59:04
i think i will file a complaint to the brothel
Posted by Lamdage22 on February 25, 2016, at 4:05:35
In reply to Re: Addictive behavior, posted by Lamdage22 on February 25, 2016, at 3:53:51
its just not fun to go there knowing that they all try to hustle me you know?
Posted by Lamdage22 on February 25, 2016, at 9:54:11
In reply to Re: Addictive behavior, posted by Lamdage22 on February 25, 2016, at 4:05:35
By the complete disregard of my emotional wellbeing by this woman.
WTF??
Not enough money? I think too much GREED!
Posted by Lamdage22 on February 25, 2016, at 9:56:35
In reply to I am shocked, posted by Lamdage22 on February 25, 2016, at 9:54:11
This is a place where the women get ALOT of money.
Posted by Tabitha on February 25, 2016, at 10:44:38
In reply to Re: I am shocked, posted by Lamdage22 on February 25, 2016, at 9:56:35
It's annoying, in every business they try to up-sell you. Would you like fries with that? Do you need an extended warranty? How about some shoes to go with that skirt? As a customer you just have to learn to say no to the up-sell.
Posted by Lamdage22 on February 25, 2016, at 10:55:38
In reply to Re: I am shocked, posted by Tabitha on February 25, 2016, at 10:44:38
Well only this time it is "you HAVE to give me money for nothing".
Posted by Tabitha on February 25, 2016, at 10:57:42
In reply to I am shocked, posted by Lamdage22 on February 25, 2016, at 9:54:11
> Not enough money? I think too much GREED!
It's hard to know her financial situation. Perhaps like you say she is greedy and is funding a luxury lifestyle. Or maybe she realizes that she only has a few years before she ages out of her profession and needs to make as much as possible now to prepare for an uncertain future.
I agree it's unfortunate she feels the best way to meet her financial needs is to exploit customers' sympathy and vulnerability. My understanding is that some sex workers feel de-humanized by their work, and as a result they don't respect their customers a whole lot, so they may not feel much regret over hustling them.
Posted by Lamdage22 on February 25, 2016, at 11:32:42
In reply to Re: greed, posted by Tabitha on February 25, 2016, at 10:57:42
> My understanding is that some sex workers feel de-humanized by their work, and as a result they don't respect their customers a whole lot, so they may not feel much regret over hustling them.
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>Fair point.
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