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Posted by rjlockhart37 on April 24, 2016, at 19:28:55
i've had moments where i think of something, or a past event, or like ... somone in my family passing away, and it's hard to describe in words, it's like you feel this intense feeling of nostalgia, but at the same time it feel kinda of like a heartache, not totally but it's like a mix of heartache, having a deep feeling inside, this is video from a movie the joy luck club, this is kinda another visual way of trying to express the emotion
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pQHuukGmv_A
just get this feeling or moment where you feel deep emotion, not exactly sorrow, but more like nostaglic feelings
like thinking of memory that you love, and it gets stronger and more longed for after a periuod of time
Posted by Tabitha on April 26, 2016, at 11:59:50
In reply to deep feeling emotion (events, memories), posted by rjlockhart37 on April 24, 2016, at 19:28:55
Yeah, sometimes I feel really sad that the past is gone, even when it's not a great memory. It's like a variant of nostalgia. One way to trigger it is to look at things I kept from my childhood, and see that the things are aged and yellowed, and think about how many decades old the things are. Another thing is to think about people who have died or otherwise been lost to me, and realize that they seem like ghosts now, because in my memories they're vague and passive, because they can't do new and unexpected things and I don't even have a clear picture of them.
That looks like a very intensely dramatic movie. I haven't seen it.
Posted by baseball55 on April 26, 2016, at 18:34:41
In reply to deep feeling emotion (events, memories), posted by rjlockhart37 on April 24, 2016, at 19:28:55
weird trailer for Joy Luck Club. The book is funny and upbeat.
Posted by rjlockhart37 on April 28, 2016, at 11:53:16
In reply to Re: deep feeling emotion (events, memories), posted by Tabitha on April 26, 2016, at 11:59:50
yea they added some drama scenes into the movie, i havent read the book but each mother in the movie has memories from the past, it get's intense, what it about is the hardships of people living in china, having bad things happened to them that caused emotional trauma
but i wasnt totally trying to use that scene, there's tons of more ways to explain it, or just ... getting deep in the moment thinking abut the past, or something you long for
Posted by rjlockhart37 on April 28, 2016, at 12:06:32
In reply to Re: deep feeling emotion (events, memories), posted by Tabitha on April 26, 2016, at 11:59:50
yea ... soemtimes during the day, ill go into daydream land even in social places, and think about longed things i always wanted, or ... people that left an impact in my memories, ill still think about them, it's like their frozen in time in my memories.......
or ill think about longed for things like having alot of friends, being very socially active, i can be social but my abilities are limited, i can't come into a room and immidiately dive into talking with people, and if i do i'm not good at it and people move way, im like the social dork, greeting people, but saying indirectly off topic dorky things......saying something really dumb on impluse
but just like the past, sometimes feels like people who are gone, somehow are still existing in someone's memories, the time frame of how you knew them and remembered them, that's how they stay i guess
Posted by Tabitha on May 9, 2016, at 13:34:25
In reply to Re: deep feeling emotion (events, memories) » Tabitha, posted by rjlockhart37 on April 28, 2016, at 12:06:32
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> or ill think about longed for things like having alot of friends, being very socially active,I can really relate. I used to long for that more than anything. I guess I still do, but I've been trying to accept that my personality just doesn't work for that. The best I can do is incremental improvements. Like mostly fitting in instead of standing out as "unique". But that's not the same as making friends.
> i can be social but my abilities are limited, i can't come into a room and immidiately dive into talking with people, and if i do i'm not good at it and people move way, im like the social dork, greeting people, but saying indirectly off topic dorky things......saying something really dumb on impluse
Ha ha, yeah me too. I also make dork moves on social media. I have to resist and ask myself "would I say this in person? Do I even know this person well enough to talk to them?"
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> but just like the past, sometimes feels like people who are gone, somehow are still existing in someone's memories, the time frame of how you knew them and remembered them, that's how they stay i guess
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>Yes, that's a good way to think that people made an impact. Eventually most of us will be forgotten though. It's hard to accept. But I figure I'll be dead, so I won't be around to be sad that I'm forgotten.
Posted by rjlockhart37 on May 14, 2016, at 0:28:26
In reply to Re: deep feeling emotion (events, memories), posted by baseball55 on April 26, 2016, at 18:34:41
yea that scene from the movie, the only thing i was trying to convey is when she stands there and rerermber's her first child as a baby, after that scene it get's dramatic, not exactly what i was trying talk about......it was just that one scene
but yea i guess pain, or desire and longing is what shapes who we are, and what we persue for the hunger inside, waiting to be quenched
Posted by rjlockhart37 on May 16, 2016, at 20:35:54
In reply to deep feeling emotion (events, memories), posted by rjlockhart37 on April 24, 2016, at 19:28:55
i've had these periods again where i get indepth on a memory, or a time frame. Like....i was watching the end of a show that was on in the 90s, and the last eqisode i watched the end of it, and i felt the same way i did just like 14 years ago.....it's like part of time is still existing in the past......and it's like all this, all this my life, was not suppost to happen.....that i'm some how living in a alternate reality.....not really a nightmare but a disappointment
i still get like that when i think of my family members, and even my little kitty i have.....i'll go into this state where i know there gone, and there only in my memories, it's like a mix of nostalgia and some remorse.
It's like ... there gone, and there's nothing you can do about it, not exactly gone like dying but like the end of a main time period
im trying my best to explain it, it could be densed down into fewer words but i don't know to put it
my cat and my mother are close to me, but it's this part that doenst want them go away, my father passed away last year, at first i couldnt absorb it, it was like he just went on a vacation and he'll come back, it took me along time to absorb, my memories with him......
i just ... feel i don't attached to someone too fully because after seeing them go, it kills you inside
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