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Posted by NikkiT2 on May 9, 2003, at 8:05:23
I've been having CBT since last September, and it has been helping em so much. I am alot better than I was and was hopeful of so much more.
My psychologist then became pregnant.. 2 weeks ago I found out she's not being replaced so I have to go back on a 2 year waiting list.
I'd kind of got myself OK with this though, and was really looking forward to my last weeks with psychologist.Then I get a call this morning.. she has blood pressure problems so has had to go on maternity leave early. So thats it. My therapy is over.
Meds do little to help me really... zyprexa helps with suicidal side, but AD's do very little for it other than give me side effects.
So now, I'm all on my own again, wondering if this is going to be it now. Is this as well as I will ever get.
And will I be able to keep up the stuff I have learnt without the weekly meetings??Feeling lost I guess *sighs*
Nikki xx
Posted by mmcasey on May 9, 2003, at 10:45:45
In reply to Is this as well as I will ever get??, posted by NikkiT2 on May 9, 2003, at 8:05:23
I feel for you. As I think you may know (because I posted about it and I know that you responded) I also lost my therapist last week. It is quite horrible. I can't believe that you have to wait 2 years!! Isn't there someone else where you went for therapy that they can transfer you to, or does it not work like that?
I don't know what to say to help you, because I feel about the same as you do. I learned some skills in a group I was in that ended this week (DBT) and I also wonder if I will be able to keep them up. One thing I try to do is have conversations in my mind with my therapist and just try to imagine how she might respond. It helps a little bit (although it also makes me really want to actually talk to her).
I hope this helps you at least a little bit. Know that you are not alone!
Good luck and take care,
Meghan
Posted by slinky on May 9, 2003, at 10:47:04
In reply to Is this as well as I will ever get??, posted by NikkiT2 on May 9, 2003, at 8:05:23
Hi Nikki..
I'm awaiting some kind of therapy (london)..
but accepted that things won't get betterfor me
I've stopped fighting/analyzing and given in .
I'll just pop the meds..I don't know what well is but I do know my days are not the norm compared with others
I really hope things get sorted out for you .We've been posting here a long time..Take care sweety
Posted by Dinah on May 9, 2003, at 21:09:32
In reply to Is this as well as I will ever get??, posted by NikkiT2 on May 9, 2003, at 8:05:23
I'm sorry, Nikki. I'm sorry you missed your closure with your current therapist, and I'm really sorry about the wait list. I wish they could do something about that.
I ask myself that question often. I really obsessed for days over that line from the Jack Nicholson movie. I sometimes wonder if therapy or meds will ever make me well. Or if this is it. I usually conclude that this is it. Not horrible, but not as even or as stable as I might wish.
Is there any way you can hang on to the lessons she taught you? Can you make notes of the techniques she taught? Give yourself homework assignments she might have given you? Read books by practitioners of a similar orientation?
I'm just throwing out ideas, but I'll throw a hug your way too. I'm really sorry you lost your therapist prematurely.
Posted by BekkaH on May 9, 2003, at 21:32:03
In reply to Re: Is this as well as I will ever get?? » NikkiT2, posted by Dinah on May 9, 2003, at 21:09:32
> >> I ask myself that question often. I really obsessed for days over that line from the Jack Nicholson movie. I sometimes wonder if therapy or meds will ever make me well.
**********************************************But Melvin Udall (Nicholson) did get better. We don't know whether he ever got "well," but he was definitely improving by the end of the movie.
Posted by Dinah on May 9, 2003, at 23:12:35
In reply to Re: Is this as well as I will ever get??, posted by BekkaH on May 9, 2003, at 21:32:03
Yeah, he was.
Unfortunately, I don't think winning the love of a good woman would do as much for me. (grin) I love Hollywood.
Posted by noa on May 10, 2003, at 8:28:22
In reply to Is this as well as I will ever get??, posted by NikkiT2 on May 9, 2003, at 8:05:23
Nikki, I am sorry. What a loss. I know you were gearing yourself up for the loss, but having it come early is so hard.
Don't think in terms of "is this it?" I know the resources are scarce over there, but if you need to, you can resume therapy at some point. There is always more to learn. The fact that you were able to use the therapy thus far with such great results means you will be able to do so again.
I know you can go even further in your wellness. This loss is so hard, but it doesn't mean your progress stops here.
Posted by BekkaH on May 10, 2003, at 9:06:59
In reply to Re: Is this as well as I will ever get?? » BekkaH, posted by Dinah on May 9, 2003, at 23:12:35
> > Unfortunately, I don't think winning the love of a good woman would do as much for me. (grin)
*************************************************OK. Maybe not the love of a good woman, but what about the love of a cute little dog like Verdel?
Posted by Dinah on May 10, 2003, at 20:56:24
In reply to Re: Is this as well as I will ever get?? - Dinah, posted by BekkaH on May 10, 2003, at 9:06:59
And my husband assured me that I shouldn't underestimate the attentions of Helen Hunt as a healing factor either.
Posted by WorryGirl on May 12, 2003, at 12:44:23
In reply to Is this as well as I will ever get??, posted by NikkiT2 on May 9, 2003, at 8:05:23
> I've been having CBT since last September, and it has been helping em so much. I am alot better than I was and was hopeful of so much more.
>
> My psychologist then became pregnant.. 2 weeks ago I found out she's not being replaced so I have to go back on a 2 year waiting list.
> I'd kind of got myself OK with this though, and was really looking forward to my last weeks with psychologist.
>
> Then I get a call this morning.. she has blood pressure problems so has had to go on maternity leave early. So thats it. My therapy is over.
>
> Meds do little to help me really... zyprexa helps with suicidal side, but AD's do very little for it other than give me side effects.
>
> So now, I'm all on my own again, wondering if this is going to be it now. Is this as well as I will ever get.
> And will I be able to keep up the stuff I have learnt without the weekly meetings??
>
> Feeling lost I guess *sighs*
>
> Nikki xxWhat a loss - sorry to hear about it. I hope things turn around for you soon, and you don't have to wait too awfully long for another good therapist.
Take care
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