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Posted by gadchik on June 8, 2013, at 13:06:46
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » gadchik, posted by sigismund on June 8, 2013, at 7:37:26
It has been said, somewhere, that 10 is the happiest age and 44 the unhappiest. This certainly rings true for me. 10 was before the dreaded self consciousness of tweenhood, and before the angst of teenhood. 44 was the year of my life when I slid into the most dreadful abyss of depression I have known. Now, staring 50 down the barrel, Im dealing with aches and pains such as I have never known. But, Im psychologically "all there", and mental health, feeling content, means the world to me, now.
Posted by sigismund on June 8, 2013, at 13:08:05
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » sigismund, posted by Phillipa on June 8, 2013, at 9:46:57
No *that* problem is kind of quiescent now, although I make a point of trying to be careful with my posture and I do pilates.
Of course I have another problem. The vertebral column is so long.
I have this skoliosis, don't know whether it matters, but atm I have something similar to sciatica but in my arm.
Well, with age often people end up with curvature of the spine until, and you know what.....
Posted by sigismund on June 8, 2013, at 13:14:29
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » sigismund, posted by Beckett on June 8, 2013, at 12:37:33
I have not been bike riding yet.
Mi profesor de espanol hizo reirme cuando me dijo 'Estoy buscando por un salida con dignidad de esta planeta'.
It was 'esta planeta' that made me laugh.
I can buy Tramadol otc and made sure I bought up big.
I want to go here
Posted by sigismund on June 8, 2013, at 13:19:36
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » sigismund, posted by gadchik on June 8, 2013, at 13:06:46
My wife and I were talking about the journey and how it is so much worse than the destination <joke!> and she said it was important to be able to figure out what you simply cannot stand (without reservation or embarrassment).
When you are younger you have so many ideas about how you ought to be.
I manage to laugh much more than I used to.
Nothing matters, there's nothing to be frightened of, and so on and so forth, it's all very scary but it can be fun.
Posted by sigismund on June 8, 2013, at 13:30:23
In reply to Re: I feel like crap » gadchik, posted by sleepygirl2 on June 7, 2013, at 16:00:40
Talking about hibernating, it was Corpus Cristie here recently with numerous really heavy saints being carried along by 50 people or so, often with a couple of tons of concrete just to give the feeling of suffering.
But in the past, before the Christian dispensation, the mummies of the Incas were brought, each from his own palace, and paraded around the Plaza de Armas. With plenty of attention, women to wave off the flies, plenty of food and drink.
People should not worry about being mad, they really shouldn't.
I must say I am enjoying harina de coca mixed with a little Jamaican rum.
Posted by Beckett on June 8, 2013, at 13:33:44
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » Beckett, posted by sigismund on June 8, 2013, at 13:14:29
>'Estoy buscando por un salida con dignidad de esta planeta'.
¿Que? I can't quite translate.
Tramadol is great for nerve pain.
Cool looking place. I'll look up it''s function.
Posted by sigismund on June 8, 2013, at 14:37:30
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » sigismund, posted by Beckett on June 8, 2013, at 13:33:44
I am looking for a dignified exit from this planet.
Posted by sigismund on June 8, 2013, at 14:42:34
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » sigismund, posted by Beckett on June 8, 2013, at 13:33:44
I can buy real noni fruit for 50c a fruit in the market.
I have this idea for me, for hopeless cases, that noni plus ganoderma lucidum could be useful.
This drink is a very appealing shade of green.
Posted by gadchik on June 8, 2013, at 15:45:15
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » gadchik, posted by sigismund on June 8, 2013, at 13:19:36
We are here to experience it all, pain, pleasure, happiness, despair. I dont want to fear any emotion now. I laugh loudly and sob just as loud. The thing I fear,decrepitness. I will stay in motion, that's what Ive always loved-being mobile.
Posted by Phillipa on June 8, 2013, at 21:01:17
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » Phillipa, posted by sigismund on June 8, 2013, at 13:08:05
Sigi got all this also but refuse to stop riding my bike. So I have pain all the time other than when sitting incorrectly and when sleeping. PJ
Posted by sleepygirl2 on June 8, 2013, at 21:04:18
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » Beckett, posted by sigismund on June 8, 2013, at 13:14:29
Wow, sig. That's really nice. :-)
I hope you get there soon.
Posted by sleepygirl2 on June 8, 2013, at 21:10:21
In reply to To Be 10 again... » sleepygirl2, posted by gadchik on June 7, 2013, at 14:14:42
When I was 10, I would take long walks, by myself, and they were great. I found lots of cool places. And I was on my bike a lot too. I never get to do that now.
Posted by sleepygirl2 on June 8, 2013, at 21:11:28
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » gadchik, posted by sigismund on June 8, 2013, at 13:19:36
I can only hope I'll get there one day.
Posted by gadchik on June 9, 2013, at 8:52:56
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » gadchik, posted by sleepygirl2 on June 8, 2013, at 21:10:21
I remember being in a big field by myself when I was say 8 or 10, and just twirling, twirling, doing ballet, so I thought. Pure joy at moving! I recently rode a bike on vacation in Duck. Rode to the village for lattes, and I felt giddy with the air blowing past me, my brain remembered a long ago time at 10 on my bike : )
Posted by sigismund on June 9, 2013, at 9:56:52
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » sigismund, posted by sleepygirl2 on June 8, 2013, at 21:04:18
No, I'm there now. In Cusco.
My physio had an intern (I guess you would call her) from California and we were making sense of my symptoms in English and talking about being here and I said I liked the Peruvian culture because it was soft and gentle, and not competitive like Australia, and she said "Then you wouldn't like the US', to which I agreed.
There is this reserve and hardness in the culture I come from, a sink or swim kind of thing, it's so cold. I feel it most at parties, which are simply the sorts of thing I should avoid.
Speaking of that sink or swim thing, that is why, when I was at school, I could not get outraged by the sexual abuse thing. After all if your parents are prepared to let you drown to prove you can be a man, what's a little sexual abuse on top?
I think that outlook, sink or swim, is so terrible, especially when applied to your own children.
Posted by sleepygirl2 on June 9, 2013, at 14:35:35
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » sleepygirl2, posted by sigismund on June 9, 2013, at 9:56:52
"There, little baby, go sink or swim,
I brought you into the world, what more should I do? Do you expect me always to be responsible for you?"
-Stevie SmithIt's a cold thing. I like independence, but I don't worship it.
Posted by sleepygirl2 on June 9, 2013, at 14:36:56
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » sleepygirl2, posted by gadchik on June 9, 2013, at 8:52:56
I keep looking at bicycles in stores. Some if them are very simple. That's what I want, and something with a cushy seat.
Posted by sigismund on June 9, 2013, at 16:19:44
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » sigismund, posted by sleepygirl2 on June 9, 2013, at 14:35:35
Well, you can do various things with your kids. One thing could be to enjoy being with them when they want to be with you and to enjoy teaching them.
But my experience (when young) was that there wasn't much enjoyment to be had or teaching to be done. More like demands for loyalty.
I actually loved being a father.
Posted by gadchik on June 9, 2013, at 16:40:35
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » gadchik, posted by sleepygirl2 on June 9, 2013, at 14:36:56
cushy seat-essential! get ur bike and hit a trail, its joy,bliss,contentedness : )
Posted by gadchik on June 9, 2013, at 16:43:02
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again..., posted by sigismund on June 9, 2013, at 16:19:44
I know being a parent "fixed" something in me. It was bittersweet. I am and will always be a parent, a mom. But I miss the actual day to day, seeing someone growing up...sigh...
Posted by sleepygirl2 on June 9, 2013, at 16:56:56
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » sigismund, posted by gadchik on June 9, 2013, at 16:43:02
Yeah, I guess it can. :-)
I'm going to the beach tomorrow. I hope it's the right temperature, not too hot.
Posted by sleepygirl2 on June 9, 2013, at 17:00:05
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » gadchik, posted by sleepygirl2 on June 9, 2013, at 16:56:56
Forget the beach. It's going to rain. The best place to be when it rains? Hmmmm.... Home?
Probably. That's good too.
Posted by sigismund on June 10, 2013, at 8:49:18
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » sigismund, posted by gadchik on June 9, 2013, at 16:43:02
Being a parent for me (when I could do it) was about creating a safe space with wide boundaries in which the kid could grow.
It's different now. We are friends, which is good, but not the same.
I especially loved the first (boy) one learning to talk. Because he took time I could understand and enjoy his progress.
And as you imply and someone said, having kids helps you grow up, partly because sometimes you can see your reflection in them and you don't like it.
Posted by gadchik on June 10, 2013, at 9:21:32
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » gadchik, posted by sigismund on June 10, 2013, at 8:49:18
I too enjoyed communication-developing speech-that was a big part of my parenting, just talking to my son about all sorts of things. We discussed and debated through out his growing up years. We still do alot of that today, altho it takes the form of texting, most often. He will call sometimes, and say, "we havent talked in a while". I will also see a quote and text him it, if I feel he would be amused or intrigued by it.
Posted by sigismund on June 10, 2013, at 12:59:03
In reply to Re: To Be 10 again... » sigismund, posted by gadchik on June 10, 2013, at 9:21:32
His first words were onomatopoeic (I think is the word). For example, a road type machine was a 'goo goo googieDAH', which was the sound of the machine starting. And it changed from there.
Now we talk about Bill McKibbon, global warming and appropriate investment strategies. Not nearly so charming.
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