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Posted by just so sad on April 22, 2005, at 9:25:01
Well, I haven't stayed absolutely drink free since my last post, which is probably why I stopped posting...but I have been steadfast in my promise to my son not to drink alone. I haven't drank this little in years! I had a few drinks on Saturday after talking hubby into taking me for dinner and joining me (he had one beer) and two drinks on Weds at supper with a friend - and if she had ordered pop I would have been fine with that too. Last Friday (and this one too I'm assuming) was amazing to me - I actually survived without my bottle of red wine. Unbelieveable. Hubby wouldn't budge and join me - he wasn't in the mood. That really tested my resolve. You know, all that TGIF stuff??? Anyway, I have decided not to beat myself up, I am doing awesome, and I haven't had a hangover in weeks!! So since April 9, I have only drank twice! And I don't miss it nearly as much as I thought I would. I'm not thinking about it constantly which blows my mind. I guess having my depression under control (for the most part) is helping tons too. Anyway, sorry for the long story...just I really like your support!! Selfish girl! Ta for now.
Posted by AuntieMel on April 22, 2005, at 10:16:51
In reply to My progress, posted by just so sad on April 22, 2005, at 9:25:01
Those are huge steps for you!
Not to take away from that - this really is good news! - maybe the next step is to figure out why you're working so hard to get others to join you.
Or why, if pop would have been ok, you felt the need to join in.
Again - not trying to be negative, you are doing so, so much better. I'm just trying to point you at something to think on.
It sounds like you're 'just so happy'
Posted by just so sad on April 22, 2005, at 10:28:04
In reply to Re: Wonderful progress » just so sad, posted by AuntieMel on April 22, 2005, at 10:16:51
Thanks for your encouragement - and your insightful questions. I guess part of the problem is habits, right? I ALWAYS drink on Fridays and Saturdays (okay, up until recently I also always drink Sun-Thurs too) so it is in my mindset that I'm - I don't know - entitled? It's a cultural mindset too. Interesting. I'm going to watch out for that. Another thought - it almost felt like a "reward" for good behaviour. Entitlement comes to mind again. Gee - you really got to the root of it Auntie Mel - thanks!!
Posted by partlycloudy on April 22, 2005, at 11:38:54
In reply to Re: Wonderful progress » AuntieMel, posted by just so sad on April 22, 2005, at 10:28:04
Mel is pretty amazing, I agree. I'm glad you're doing so well! I am happy to report no hangovers on my end either. It's a wonderful feeling to wake up with a clear head and conscience; and it's a good incentive to keep on doing it. I'm still doing my "stealthy" sobriety - not making a big deal of it. It helps me not to keep thinking about it, which keeps me from even considering it. If it's working (and it sounds like you're doing so well)I don't mess with success.
pc
p.s. lovely to see you posting!
Posted by AuntieMel on April 22, 2005, at 15:04:17
In reply to Re: Wonderful progress » AuntieMel, posted by just so sad on April 22, 2005, at 10:28:04
I know what you mean. I looked at my evening drink as a 'treat' to myself after a long day.
I've been at this lush thing for a while. When I was expecting my youngest I figured I couldn't have my glass (or two) of wine with dinner anymore. But wine with dinner just seemed so - civilized.
To keep from feeling 'deprived' I would pour myself about a tablespoon into a crystal wine glass.
But I demanded a bottle of scotch after delivery.
A lot of mine was habit, too. That's one of the reasons the 5 weeks of group helped - it was during the time of day that I'd usually be coming home from work, heading to the fridge and popping open a beer (or wine, or vodka.....) Having to be somewhere else helped break the habit part of the drinking.
It'll come if you keep working for it. Understanding is a huge part of the battle.
Posted by Phillipa on April 22, 2005, at 17:55:49
In reply to Re: entitlement » just so sad, posted by AuntieMel on April 22, 2005, at 15:04:17
Yup it was entitlement for me too. Such a rough evening at work. I'll unwind. But when I stopped I no longer felt good just more anziety and depression. I thought that was supposed to go away. Even with AD's and Benzos. And now I can't work. I was before. Fondly, Phillipa
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