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Posted by Angela2 on September 11, 2005, at 21:35:00
I just don't see the point in social drinking. I do, in a sense, but a lot of the time I am uncomfortable with it. I like to drink alone. I don't like the idea of people seeing me not in my right mind. When I drink at family functions, some of my family members point it out, like, I don't know I have a drink in my hand. They'll be like "hey, Angela's drinking." I'm not really sure whey they say this but It's usually my grandpa who says it, and I take offense to it. He says it repeatedly and it pisses me off. If this happens again, i'm going to tell him how much it bothers me and that I wish he wouldn't say that anymore. That aside, I have mixed feelings about drinking in public. Seeing other people who are closse to me drinking at a party kinda bothers me, and I don't know why. I guess I'm just uptight. Or maybe I just want those I care about to share the same feelings about alcohol that I do. Although, when my parents drink, it does not bother me. I just remember that when my exboyfriend would drink at parties, It would bother me. Why is that? Thanks for listening.
Posted by alexandra_k on September 12, 2005, at 3:23:10
In reply to I just don't see the point?, posted by Angela2 on September 11, 2005, at 21:35:00
I think it might have something to do with being nervous in social situations. I think that a fair few people like to dring in social situations because it reduces their anxiety so they can relax and enjoy themselves more.
I don't really 'get it' either. But then... Thats probably because I have more of a tendancy to drink myself into a stupor when I do drink. And thats not very often. Because alchohol makes me throw up while I'm still waiting for the high to kick in.
Posted by rainbowbrite on September 12, 2005, at 8:35:20
In reply to I just don't see the point?, posted by Angela2 on September 11, 2005, at 21:35:00
Maybe your grandfather says that too you because you don't often drink and when you do drink he gets excited? Social drinking is really important to many people and people like to drink with others so when one isnt drinking and others figure it out (from my experience) they will hound to find out why. Because drinking is generally an enjoyable experience. Thats just a thought. Whats unfortunate about that is when the person not drinking is an alcoholic.
I figure you arent bothered by your parents drinking because you grew up with it and are comfortable with it, but with you bf you are in a different social setting and maybe feeling more socially anxious...then add people acting like idiots when you are stone sober it would not be an enjoyable experience.
Posted by sunny10 on September 12, 2005, at 11:38:42
In reply to Re: I just don't see the point? » Angela2, posted by rainbowbrite on September 12, 2005, at 8:35:20
I used to avoid drinking in public, too. I'm not sure if you feel the same, but I am socially akward enough without others watching me "become stupid" (in my mind, anyway).
I also do not drink while "out" very much because the dangers of drinking and driving are very real.
But now that I am more comfortable being who I am, I'll drink with others if I don't have to drive home. I'm less worried about what other people think of me...
Hope that hearing about me helps you in some way...
-sunny10
Posted by Angela2 on September 13, 2005, at 21:08:38
In reply to Re: You sound like me, posted by sunny10 on September 12, 2005, at 11:38:42
Thanks for the insight and support everyone. Rain, I believe you are right about my grandpa.
Posted by Sebastian on October 8, 2005, at 18:39:44
In reply to I just don't see the point?, posted by Angela2 on September 11, 2005, at 21:35:00
I think its your grandpa's words bothing you. If you tell your grandpa politly that it bothers you and you can get him to stop maybe you will be better.
Posted by Sebastian on October 8, 2005, at 18:42:51
In reply to Re: I just don't see the point? » Angela2, posted by alexandra_k on September 12, 2005, at 3:23:10
You need to know your stoping point. Drink that many and stop wait for the effects to kick in and try to injoy it, by doing some thing that distracts you from the wanting a real good buzz. Works beter this way and you won't get sick.
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