Posted by Noa on January 5, 2000, at 19:37:05
In reply to Re: my particular obsession (longish), posted by Canadian Michele on January 5, 2000, at 12:45:14
This is a sensitivity of mine, too. I used to feel panic at the thought of someone being angry at me or not liking me. Now I do accept the idea that not everyone has to like me, but I can't say it is easy for me.
I think the search for confirmation that you are likeable can sometimes be a way to try to defend against a deep, core belief one has about oneself, that you are unlikeable, or unlovable. Sometimes, some therapy (group or individual) can help a person to examine how they came to have this kind of core belief about themselves, and to logically challenge the irrationality of this belief.
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