Posted by kerry B on July 6, 2000, at 17:35:49
In reply to Kerry B - Thoughts for you/update on me from Kath, posted by Kath on July 6, 2000, at 8:59:01
> Hi Kerry - I'm so glad your mum-in-law could take your kids for a bit. I hope you can do something "pampering" for yourself each & every day. It can be simple - perhaps a bubble-bath; renting a movie you've always wanted to see but haven't had time; pick a wild-flower & put it in a small vase or buy a flower or two from a florist for yourself; take out some music cassettes or CD's from the library; sit with your feet up & enjoy a book you like; sit in a room lighted by a few candles with some relaxing music & sip tea or herb tea...something to make you feel special & "worth it" because you are!!
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> My situation is in a post from yesterday. Our son didn't contact us yesterday, but picked up his knapsack & sleeping bag from the back patio. In the night when I got up I saw that he was sleeping in his s-bag on the lounge out there. He had gone when we got up this morning. I really hope he will contact some of the resources that I wrote on the list I left for him. I think it's a help for me just to know that people know what's up for me right now.
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> I'll be thinking of you. Kath
Hi Kath,
Thanks again for your lovely message. I do plan to do something nice for myself during the week and it works out that I haven't really much housework to do as I have done it bit by bit this week, so the place won't fall apart just in a week. I am so much looking forward to it but I will probably spend all my time on here, knowing me.
I just love to lay in the bath with candles burning, I find that so relaxing and it gives me time to think! I also want to have my hair tidied up, I have neglected it lately, being so pre-occupied with not feeling good, so if I can get over this drowsiness from the meds I'm on'I shall go to the hairdresser and be at the mercy of the scissors!
I'm sorry, I couldn't find your post from yesterday about your situation. I read one about your daughter and it sounded like she is doing well on her meds. Hope so. Does she suffer from depression? It's a horribe thing to go through as I have that part in my illness as well.
Do you know where your son has gone? It is a worry. Does he have depression as well? Sorry for asking, hope you don't mind.
I had my 18 yr old staying with me for 7 months and then one day he said he was going to the city and said he would be home on the Monday as it was a Friday when he left.
Monday came and he never showed up. I was worried and tried to contact him on his mobile but there was never any answer. To cut a long story short, four weeks passed and I made contact with him. He hadn't remembered himself telling me when he would be home. Actually, observing him here, I do believe he has problems but I'm not sure what at this stage.
I have witnessed him shouting at himself and then answering himself and things like that and I asked him one day about it and he had no recollection of it. It worries me but it is out of my hands now as he never came back, he stayed in the city and is still there.
Being a mother is so hard. It is added stress, but believe me, they, the kids, survive but as mothers we worry for them.
I do hope you hear from your son!!!!! He must have somewhere that he is going. Are you able to talk to him about it in a matter of fact way? Maybe that will help you find out what he's doing?
Please try not to worry, you know there is always someone watching over him, just keep that in mind!!!!!
I best go now as everyone is awake and I must get ready to do the shopping.
Take care Kath!!!!!!!!Kerry
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