Posted by wcfrench on October 21, 2002, at 15:33:20
In reply to Re: about the Effexor..., posted by Tepiaca on October 21, 2002, at 12:56:46
Hi JC
What meds are you taking? Have you ever felt OK during the last several years, and what meds seemed to help it and what were you doing at that time in your life? Sometimes when I get really bad, I think exactly the same way you do. I remember thinking how much I wanted friends but how I could understand that no one would want to be friends with me, because of the negativity I carried around with me. I remember even asking one of my friends why we even have friends? Why do people want to hang around with eachother, namely, why would anyone want to hang around me? I felt like such a loner, that I couldn't bring anything positive to a friendship.
It seems that during our worst of times some of the best therapy can be to remember the times when we were good. Remember back to how you felt, and know that it is possible to get there again, and that it will happen with patience, the right medicine, and most importantly, hope. If anything, don't lose hope, know who you are on the inside, who you can be, and know that you can be that person again. All relationships suffer when you are depressed, or don't feel like yourself. From casual friends all the way to married couples, so you are not alone. We can all identify with the frustration that arises from not feeling like ourself, from not being able to socialize like we once could... from feeling worthless around other people. The most important thing to remember, however, is that these feelings are a result of depression, and that they will go away with the proper treatment. When you feel better, like yourself, these thoughts all but disappear.
You are not alone. Most of the people on PsychoBabble know exactly what you are talking about. If it's any consolation, read around, and you will find that many have been in the same boat you have, and many have it much worse. Can you tell us what meds and dosages you are taking and what you have taken in the past, and what seemed to help? We need to keep the discussion focused on your medicine, or we will have to continue it in the Psycho Social Babble forum. Hope to hear from you.
-Charlie
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