Posted by Dog on December 11, 2003, at 8:12:55
In reply to Surreal, that about sums that up!!, posted by DeeJay on December 10, 2003, at 16:23:49
Deej,
Wasn't that kind of a "kick in the pants" for you for your Dad to say that to your Mom as she was dying?... to me, anyway, that seemed a little harsh and/or selfish on his part... too bad its the last thing he said to her... its funny how different people react to things and it sounds like your Dad was at the end of his rope...
too bad... i have some resentment toward some of my family members over the whole thing of Mom's death, and also some guilt on my part in it, but i think with time it will pass or at least get less sore...
Re essential nutrients: when i was in college, i took a bio-chem class that was team-taught by two of my prof.s called "Nutrition and Metabolism"... one of the main projects was to record everything we ate for two weeks and estimate portions and then do a study over what the foods contained in regards to not only calories, but every vitamin and nutrient involved... there was a couple of things that were difficient in my diet: Vit. C was one, and the other i can't remember for sure, but it might have been magnesium... i am sure it was a metal though...how does magnesium or lack of it affect or cause depression?its no big news to me, just from the small correspondence with you i have seen, that your doc believes you don't need big therapy... just in the little amount of our communication, i have found you giving me psycho-therapy, and that is, i think, the sign of a very healthy mind...so whatever you're doing for yourself, it appears you're doing right...
keep up the good work!
Dog> Surreal is an EXCELLENT word for this whole discovery about our moms. I experienced the SAME THING, at the very last moment, I was in my brother's room, listening to a CD, when my sister-in-law came in and told me "it's time" and my poor dad was so angry and tired of the whole thing that he aggressively told my mom to "go, I can't take this anymore" and she did. Took that last breath, kinda seemed to sit up a bit, and her face immediately turned grayish purple. Man, what an experience I don't wish on anyone.
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> I have my B.A. in Communications....and how I got my job was an accident. My dad's girlfriend is a research nurse where I work and an opening for a "secretary" became mine.....only after I met with my doc/boss, and we discussed I would do "more research and write stuff" other than "medial secretary stuff." Hey, as long as my foot is in the door. I have a pretty good background in writing and research and that's what she needed. I was also a psych major for a year until I just didn't have enough brain power to finish, so I switched to what I know. It also helps that my doc/boss and I have alot in common. Her mom has cancer and is being treated at our hospital.
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> So, I truly believe that I am here for a reason...maybe because it was my initial dream to be a psych and the fact that I had a difficult time with my moms death....so I'm making up for it by "assisting" and "being around cancer patients" and learning a whole lot. As far as training goes, I'm still in the process.
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> My own psych (not boss) heard my story and believes that I don't need extensive therapy, that I have delayed grieving and a helluva lot of insight due to my job, however, I need a little help. That's where the Wellbutrin comes in. I still don't know though....I was a Paxil kid for a few years, but man. I didn't feel anything! No emotions....and I would cry for no reason and had no peripheral vision in my life...(not physically). It was horrible.
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> I'm rambling on, but it's so great to know that my experience has been "experienced" by another human being, and all too exact.
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> Right now I'm researching magnesium and antidepressants and have become super interested in the need our bodies have for the magnesium, and how little we tend to "fix" our mental mis-haps with obvious lacking nutrients. Who would have thunk that???....;)
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> Take care..
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> Cheers >clank<
> and yes, I will have another.
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> Deej
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