Posted by flipsactown on September 20, 2004, at 4:48:13
In reply to Re: Thanks all - I'm done., posted by jerrympls on September 20, 2004, at 0:59:06
Jerry,
What I have learned through 12 years of therapy is that if you can't make peace with the past, and are constantly looking back, then it will become very difficult to move on and to look to the future.
You mentioned that you are gay. Are you out of the closet? If you aren't, then there is were most of your depression is coming from.
My son came out of the closet at 22 years old and I wished he had come out earlier because my wife and I could have been even more supportive early on. We love him just the way he is and he was depressed since high school and yet when we talked with him, he was unable to tell us for fear of us rejecting him and his sexuality. Now he has graduated from college and works full time and has his own apartment. I hope this info has helped you. Don't beat yourself up. You are trying your best and that is all you can do. Take care.
FST
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> All- I'm getting that sinking feeling...I'm becoming more depressed again....lonely...hopeless...angry. I'm seeing my therapist twice a week now...and we've uncovered a lot of stuff. But now I'm thinking "So what? Now I know I've wanted more validation from my mother - how does that help?" I mean, if you have pain in your finger and find out that it's a splinter - that doesn't make the pain go away - you know?
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> My only support is you guys and my therapist....if you're still out there, I'd appreciate some.....
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> Thanks all
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> Jerry :-(
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