Posted by CEK on June 15, 2006, at 14:24:43
I have been fighting with major depression ever since my husband had an affair on me when our son was 3months old 6 years ago. I began having problems at work and everything started getting out of control. Ever since he had the affair, he is always accusing me of cheating on him when the thought never crossed my mind. The accusing, work, the affair and everything else that had gone wrong in my life piled up on me and my AD was not working. I had a nervous breakdown in January and have been not able to handle life at all anymore. I have not been functioning and don't leave the house. I do all I can to try to take care of my 3 children and pick up the best I can in the house with no help from my husband. My house is no where near spotless like it use to be before I was sick. It was hard to do then when you have 3 children making messes everywhere. What my issue is, I just found out that my mother-in-law has been talking about me to groups of women at the place that we work. I had worked there for over 5 years and am on leave now until I get better. My husband and I both work at the same place and helped her get a job there a year ago. She is telling people while on lunch break while sitting in a group of women that I am not as sick as I am acting. She says I'm spoiled. She told them that my house is messy and filthy and that I let a dog as big as a horse sleep in the bed with me and that's disgusting.(my golden retriever sleeps at the foot of my bed) I have not invited anyone including her into my house since I've been sick. She comes over unanounced and barges in. I don't want anyone to see my house less than perfect but I just can't keep up with it all now. I've never been spoiled growning up. What I have now was never given to me. I've had to work for everything that I own. I have been diagnosed by 3 pdocs as being bipolar 2 with rapid cycling and mixed episodes with major depression and GAD. I have been hospitalized twice for wanting to commit suicide racking up $15,000.00 worth of hospital bills. I've never done anything to her for her to do me this way. The people that she is talking to are people that I have worked with for 5 years! If and when I am able to go back to work people will be looking at me like I am nasty and lazy just wanting to lay on my butt. How do I ever face these people again? How do I deal with this situation? She lives a mile away from us and my 6 year old boy loves to go down there, but I don't want him anywhere around her. How does she feel free to judge me when she's never been in my shoes? Her oldest son which is 38 and lives with her says I need to get off my butt and do something. He doesn't even work and lives with his mommy! These have been the worst 5 months of my life yet my in-laws are talking about me like I'm just taking a vacation. It hurts me so that she is saying these things about me. I don't know what I should do about it. I don't know if I should tell her off, write her a letter or ignore it. Have any of you ever been in this situation? I've never mistreated her and don't know why she would do this. My husband is a line supervisor at the place we work at and these things she is saying are going to make him look bad also. Sorry to dump this on all of you. I just don't know what to do and I feel so bad.
poster:CEK
thread:657288
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