Posted by fayeroe on February 28, 2008, at 12:06:46
In reply to Re: pulling posts, posted by Dr. Bob on February 17, 2008, at 2:09:54
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> I haven't been posting to those who may feel hurt when I block someone. Maybe I should. My hope is that they see the block as validating, and that other posters support them directly.
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> BobI am very concerned that you can "hope that a banned memeber can see the block as validating."
Explain that to PB members, please. I know that others must be puzzled over your MO concerning blocking posters. Man, I was "blocked" many times when I was growing up. It sucked then and for some, it sucks now.How do other posters support them directly? I see that some people are scared to post and show support as it might compromise their positions here.
Why don't you write to those who feel hurt? Did I not understand you when you said that this is a support forum? If you have time to block, it stands to reason that you have time to babblemail the "blockee".....
I don't see how you can say one thing and do another. I am very puzzled about the administrator not taking the time to let the person know that being hurt is taken into consideration and validate that by contacting the poster yourself.
Trust me when I say that the statement that you make about "this doesn't mean that I think you are a bad person???????? I always get a hole in my stomach when I see you post that. I think it does cause some posters to feel that they are bad, after all they got the rug pulled out from under them.
I oppose the blocks, obviously. (I am not all that bothered to be blocked as I withdrew my deep investment in PB a long time ago.And when you do block me, my investment reduces even more.
That doesn't mean that other more vulnerable posters detach and remain comfortable knowing that they have are being denied their support system that they have placed so much trust in.
What is that saying? "out of sight, out of mind"?
I feel that it is apparent that you have adopted that MO and that sort of does away with the idea that anyone can be here and be safe.
Lots of people, myself included, can be in a dreadful spot and say something that they ordinarily wouldn't say. Wouldn't it be beneficial (for you and the poster) if a personal inquiry was made, via babblemail, to try to find out what the "heck is going on" with the poster?
Faye
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