Posted by AdaGrace on February 28, 2005, at 18:26:43
All three of them.
Ages 15, 13, 12
They do not help around the house.
Usually this is because they have homework, (that they could have done before I got home), they are gone to a school function, or they are too busy with the internet, tv, or video games to help.
I ask, I plead, I cajole, and then, last but not least, I yell.
I am too hard on them, so I am told.
No support.
I dread going home. There are dirty dishes piled in both sinks. The kitchen cabinet is filthy. I refuse to step foot into their bedrooms and bathroom for fear of catching a disease or a mouse. The house smells from the filth. And I am just so stinking tired. Working 10 to 12 hour days. It's dark when I leave and it's dark when I arrive home. I have been working on the weekend, and running all my errands on Saturday. I am never home anymore. Oftentimes, they are all sitting there waiting for me to arrive asking me what is for supper.
I tried chore lists.
I tried allowances for chores done.
I tried taking away priveledges and perks such as tv, video games, etc, no friends over, no going to friends house.......nothing works.
Of course I then yell.But I have no control over what is done when I am not there.They take advantage of my not being there and forgeting my behind from a hole in the ground and so they do it anyway.
My husband is way too lenient.
He does their chores for them so I won't get upset, mad, and yell.I am at my wits end.
Work is horifically stressful, yet because of the situation with the kids and my husband (there are other things wrong there)I just don't want to go home. I want to escape.
Ever see the movie "Alice Doesn't Live Here Anymore" ????? I want that to be me.
I would trade this life for a simpler one in which I dissapear of into the wild blue yonder, become a nobody, change my name, and simply be a waitress in a greasy spoon in a town far far away, where noone knows me and noone cares.
True, I would miss my kids, they would miss me, but what would the miss about me? My money? My motherly duties? My cheuffer skills? WHAT pray tell would they miss??????
I just feel as if they are so very ungrateful.
I know what will be said, I allowed this to happen. And yes, I guess I contributed to the problem by not enforcing my own rules after they were shot down by the other parent in the house. If I had of stood up for myself, I would be as miserable as I am now because I am constantly told how unfit and harsh I am towards them. Can you imagine what it would be like if I really was that???????
Somebody hand me a drink and a nebutol......Mamma needs a hot bath and a foot rub from Emilio or Sven, or Andre`, or someone with nice strong hands and sweet smelling breath............
poster:AdaGrace
thread:464578
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