Posted by just so sad on March 7, 2005, at 13:40:30
In reply to Re: messy, lazy person here..... » rainbowbrite, posted by AdaGrace on March 2, 2005, at 14:28:47
When my almost-19 year old is asked to do something, it's always "yeah, I'll do it later", and we all know how that works out. After trials and tribulations, what I have found is the least stressful for everyone, is post it notes! I post my sons on his computer screen, and my daughter's on the bathroom mirror (ha!) with daily messages - i.e. for my son, a direct command is the only way: No computer until you've walked the dog today! Love Mom :), or for my daughter (15), a gentler: please remember I need you to unload the dishwasher and feed the dog before you watch TV or use the phone. It works and there's NO yelling. Worth a try? Just remember if they don't do chores voluntarily, it is NOT an indication they don't love or respect you, it is simply that teens DO NOT CARE about the chores; they are more worried about fitting in and/or getting good grades and/or the fight they saw at school that day.
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