Posted by Toph on March 9, 2005, at 12:06:28
In reply to Re: Child personality styles » Toph, posted by AuntieMel on March 9, 2005, at 9:40:53
> There's also a saying that still waters run deep.
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That's encouraging. I wish I weren't such a half empty kind of guy.
> Is it possible that the boyfriend and his family have a comfortable familiarity for her? And that when she's with them she doesn't feel pulled in two directions?
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Yes, she's comfortable but they know shes good for their drop out son. She also fills the void of their deceased daughter. On the other hand, I find them to be decent people. And yes, Sarah has played the mediator role in the past.
> I mean, there's no need to defend her mom if no one says anything about her.
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We don't discuss her much. Even though we have to cover for her with tuition, etc. I think it is honest to say that we rarely disparage her mother in front of the kids.
> Is there any way you can spend some alone time with her? I wouldn't try forcing a conversation, but the best way to get someone beyond superficial is to do it first yourself. Gently, of course, just a little bit about yourself and your hopes for her - that kind of stuff.
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I try to take her to dinner every time she visits from school, but we talk a lot about her boyfriend and school. I can't seem to have any deeper discussions and I will accept some of the blame here. My wife is very close with my step-daughter.> Is she away at college? Can you send 'just thinking of you' cards now and then & care packages for finals?
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You're so sweet. I remember feeling lonely at college.Thanks for responding.
Toph
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