Posted by Susan47 on May 7, 2005, at 12:06:59
In reply to My father is starving himself..., posted by Colleen D. on May 5, 2005, at 18:17:21
I'm not giving advice but I want to say what I'd probably do if this happened to my parents.
They'd have to cope with this with outside help as much as possible. I don't believe I'd feel any responsibility, as a daughter. Because they chose their lives, they chose each other, and they made vows to stick it through to the end.
Their marriage vows did not include one day making their children take responsibilty for them or their behaviour.
Yet, in spite of that, they did that throughout their children's childhood, and now they must live with the consequences of that.
I know that sounds hard-hearted and cold, but in my family, that's the way things work and I'm not about to try and change anything. It's come to suit me very well, now.
I know that it's not like this in other families, and there're reasons why that is.
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