Posted by Dinah on June 15, 2005, at 10:52:39
In reply to How do you know you want kids?, posted by Angela2 on June 14, 2005, at 22:00:32
There is no one way it's like. It depends a heck of a lot on the match between kid and parent. I was so lucky with my son, to get an excellent match. The possibilities could have been scary.
I don't think it's uniformly fulfilling. It can also be frustrating. It can really exacerbate feelings of inadequacy.
I think that there is a myth out there about how parents are supposed to feel, and it doesn't always match the reality but people are afraid to say so.
Your experience of parenting depends a lot on what point of your own development you are in, and what nature and nurture combine to make your child like, and how well the two of you get along.
I am so fortunate to have a son that I genuinely like and would seek to have a friendship with even if we weren't related.
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