Posted by Racer on December 11, 2004, at 20:37:13
In reply to really really superbad day *BIG TRIGGER*, posted by inthegloaming on December 11, 2004, at 17:52:13
You know, I can understand that. I hate trying on bras more than anything else, and often end up running out of the store crying after only a short time. It gets even worse when I go with my mother, and you'd think I'd know that by now ;-)
When I was 12, I was a D cup, and it's gone up from there. Sucks a lot. Mind you, I have a flat @$$, and have never dated a boob man, you know? And let's face it: if the Goddess had wanted us to look good naked, she'd never have invented Chanel, right?
Your friends are right that most of us are dissatisfied with our bodies in one way or another. I can't really speak for anything resembling normalcy, or I wouldn't have begged for this board for so long, but I can say that in my healthier periods I haven't worried about what I look like, it's just not on my radar.
Trying on bras, though, is way up there at the top of the list of lifetime traumas. Just below wearing a bathing suit in public :-D Trust me on this, you're not alone in feeling horrible and exposed when you're in that dressing room, with the lights that make you look green and orange.
Here's a little perspective: I'm currently just about forty pounds underweight, my hip bones stick out enough to get sore, my seat bones chafe on padded chairs, my shoulder blades get sore from the pressure of the mattress. Yeah, I've got big boobs, but I thin right now, right? When I look in the mirror, I want to chop pieces off myself, I want to run for liposuction and a belly lift, and a boob job (reduction, lift, whatever), and generally want either to cry or to vomit when I see myself. Size, shape, age, don't matter. I think if we have any insecurities, they'll be expressed to some extent in our attitudes toward our bodies.
Don't get drunk, it's not worth it. How about finding one thing you like about your body? Even if it's only, say, your right wrist, find that one thing you like. Then, tomorrow, when you think about that part, find your next favorite part. Eventually, maybe you'll find it easier.
Another suggestion, what helped me a huge amount, was to look at other women. I used to be afraid the women at my gym would think I was nuts, because I'd look at them, the way they were built, how they moved -- and discovered that way that most women are not perfect. But we can still be lovely.
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