Posted by iris2 on January 15, 2005, at 20:10:35
In reply to Freaking out over weight gain, posted by Racer on January 9, 2005, at 9:49:59
It is not okay to stay sick. I do not have all the answers. Your weight is not YOU. Having complete control over your weight will never make you happy no matter how much weight you loose. Your mind is telling you that if you are in control of your weight and are at a very low weight that you are successful and therefore happy. Are you thinking about having control over other things in your life? In this illness we disregard reality, those objectives in life that we should strive for that could increase our happiness and instead focus only on an objective, that of being thin and "in control of our bodies" as the only objective to getting us happy because we do not realize that we are capable of achieving anything else toward this effort. Do you think you are an intelligent person? Are you pretty? Are you athletic? Are you a good friend? Etc. Do you have the self-esteem to believe enough in yourself to begin to recognize that you are in more control of your life than you are observing. That your happiness and success can be contingent upon succeeding in many other areas of life besides your weight? Many of us have low self esteem and therefore think the only way to achieve happiness and success is to be thin or even thinner than everyone else and to be in control of our weight at all times. We do not see ourselves as good enough to achieve other things in life to be happy. But we are intelligent beautiful people. And no matter how thin you get the reality is it will not make you happy because you are never addressing the real problems and needs you have. It is your mind deceiving you into thinking this one achievement will make you happy. When you have reached your "goal weight" in the past were you happy? Did you think you needed to loose yet more to be "happy". You can be in control of your life instead of your weight and perhaps that is how to begin not being so sick.
Good luck,
irene
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