Posted by Declan on November 14, 2006, at 21:23:59
In reply to negative self esteem, posted by Amandafran on November 14, 2006, at 19:33:36
When I was 12 and in a boarding school I felt that I hated everyone and everyone hated me. I even made a motto out of it. Of course I was wildly lonely, dysfunctional and all the rest.
It's odd. Plenty of young people walk around feeling ugly, stupid, unliked and unloved, and then when they are older they feel they have wasted the chance they had.
I think we are way too top heavy. We come from a wilful culture that wants to be divested of shame. The problem with these kinds of holes is that it can take a lifetime (and sometimes generations) to dig yourself out of the suffering. But it doesn't help to want to be different.
If I think back to how I might have handled things better, the thing I might profitably have done is to have learned to look after myself better. You don't even have to like yourself to do that.
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