Posted by Dinah on November 27, 2006, at 17:14:38
In reply to Re: Perhaps there is another word we might seek, posted by Declan on November 26, 2006, at 2:14:38
I'm not altogether comfortable with basing self esteem on commerce with the world. :/
I can never think about self esteem without searching for some self esteem equivilant of prevenient and sanctifying grace. That on one hand there is a certain portion of self esteem that isn't based on deeds so much as in inherent worth. And that there is another part of self esteem that is based on competency and mastery.
And somehow, although I can't begin to describe it, it always seems to me that the first has to come before the second. Because the type of self esteem based on competency and mastery is too subject to the whims of fate, and is often perceived as being based on "fooling other people." You know - something along the lines of "If they really knew me, they wouldn't think highly of me." While if one has a good sense of the first type, the second almost flows from it. That if one has a notion of one's inherent worth, then one expects mastery and competence and seeks those things.
But I'm not sure I have a grasp on it at all.
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