Posted by rayww on September 9, 2003, at 6:34:50
In reply to Being Alone, posted by Heather66 on September 7, 2003, at 16:50:53
Wonderful words shared here. Thank you for touching my heart. Emotional pain is so difficult to face and walk through. One thing I discovered to help me face the pain and get to know myself was to use a present physical pain, then use transferance to relate it to something else. For instance, for a time I was wearing a rigid arch support. I could only bear to walk in them a few minutes every day. Gradually with practise I learned to walk 4 miles in them without pain. I likened that to learning to walk in my grief, and realized there would be a time when I could feel comfortable in my grief, and enjoy the healing in my body as it realigned from my feet to the top of my spine. But a realignment was indeed necessary. Another time I had surgery and incredible pain afterward. I purposely went inside as much physical pain as I could tollerate and then matched it up to my emotional pain. I kept doing this and as the physical pain eased and I healed, I brought the emotional pain along with it. I took emotional pain and wrote a story about something entirely different that would use that pain somewhere in it. I took those stories to the limit and could go back to them and read them over and over again. they would start out nice, then something very painful would happen, and there would be a happy ending where everything would work out exactly the way I wanted it to. In writing stories you can make anything happen you wish and they can be very theraputic. I chose to do most of my own work, and only relied on doctors and bishops for a very small part of it. But I like to do things "my" way, which boards like this allow.
For what it's worth, I have found that pain is pain, loss is loss, grief is grief, mistakes are mistakes, and they all require similar steps in healing. Call this group therapy? It's kind of like "work's work", it doesn't matter what you choose or where you start first, work is work. All work gets you somewhere.
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