Posted by shar on December 10, 2003, at 19:50:45
In reply to I'm not sorry he's dead, posted by Notalis on December 10, 2003, at 13:20:55
What I've learned about grief is that it is a highly personal process. Yes, generally, there are phases that people go through, but they are very variable, and definitely not the same for every person involved. It sounds like this may be especially true in your case.
It could be that SOME day you will miss him or remember him differently.....or not! Your experience is yours alone. If your other family members want to wax poetic about a person you never knew, there is always a friend in silence.
You are not alone in not missing somebody who has hurt you badly. At the same time, keep in mind that anything that's keeping you at un-peace, hurts only you. So, if you can find a way to deal with this (perhaps with a therapist or bereavement group) it will help YOU to feel more at peace, and find a new normalcy in life that does not include being so upset about it all.
Best of luck, grief (loss/change) is always hard, even if you don't feel sad.
Shar
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