Posted by RoseyReel on October 15, 2004, at 9:35:40
In reply to I'm 52 and lost my 27 year old son, posted by Jubilee on October 4, 2004, at 21:10:55
Hello Jubilee----I have read your posts and am warmed and encouraged by the journey you’ve been making. I am 53, and have three children (1 now resides in my heart). I too lost my youngest son at the tender age of 27 (exactly 13 days after his 27th birthday which fell on Friday the 13th of August this year). I’m not superstitious, but as I mentioned in my first post, the math is “eerie”. Ed is survived by 2 older siblings, a brother and sister. We had the priviledge of enjoying his company for 26 years.
The strides you have made in your recovery and in reaching positive communication with your children have warmed my heart. You are truly a survivor of your life’s obstacles and much to be admired. When I read your posts, the thought that occurred to me foremost is that though Jake is no longer physically in your life, he has continued his presence by becoming your guide and companion through a difficult personal healing process between you and your other children -- gathering and bonding all of you closer together. Perhaps, as we all like to believe, everything can be give reason -- that (just maybe) this is Jake’s gift to you, and possibly be more comforted that he is still with you in this way.
It seems to me that although your family has had a tumultuous life, you and your children have all remained very close and caring--a quality you conveyed to them early on no matter what else may have been happening in your lives.
Your new honesty and openness is the most difficult and courageous act of all, revealing old wounds but opening new doors.
To you--I wish peace and comfort. God bless you and yours.
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