Posted by Fi on July 2, 2006, at 7:27:12
In reply to Suicide - coping with the loss, posted by NZgirl on December 4, 2005, at 20:19:10
I'm sorry you didnt get a reply, and dont know if you are likely to read this. I'm not someone who has a family member who committed suicide, either.
My brother died years ago, in an accident. Certainly, it does get to the stage when the memories are less painful, although of course they continue to be very sad and wistful. You will never forget your brother- its not a process like that.
2 years is a very rough estimate. It does 'fit' for some people, from the perspective of when it stops being quite so agonising. I think one of the points about it is simply to show that it takes a long time- some people expect you to be fine after the funeral! And after a suicide, it must be a lot worse.
So, basically, I'm not at all surprised that you were feeling that bad, and indeed you may still do so. Lots of sympathies. If you can just slog on, gradually things should get easier. But still with very sad times, and over ages. But still it can happen.
I believe there is some sort of support site (survivors of suicide or similar?) They might be worth checking out?
Fi
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