Posted by kalyb on June 6, 2003, at 10:49:58
In reply to Re: Redirected: Here we go (in about 6 months' tim, posted by kara lynne on June 5, 2003, at 22:18:40
For lots of reasons I suppose.... as many reasons as I have moods! :) I'm used to posting online with advice and reccommendations to do with one of my hobbies (which despite the depression I have managed to continue, by a hair's breadth) so that's another reason.
And in a way, to document my feelings, kind of like a diary. Why write a diary in private when I can do one here, kind of, and maybe get some insights from others at the same time?
And also, which I had forgotten - to indirectly help others!! If I really have inspired you karalynne, then that's amazing... I feel all warm and fuzzy inside now!! :))
I don't know if you can get the book I was reccommended to buy, or even if it would be pertinent to you, but I'm reading it slowly and carefully and I already gained a mini-epiphany. The book takes you through the core reasons underlying low self esteem, and reminds you gently that your beliefs about yourself aren't facts, they are only OPINIONS and opinions can be changed.
Realising this suddenly gave me a new perspective on my difficulties with the hypercritical friend I am living with. She is rigid, set in her ways, a perfectionist, and has a very strong opinion on almost everything... so much so that I feel constantly undermined and can't do anything right.
But of course - *ding!!* - enlightenment.... she is acting on her own opinions that she has, her own rules for living, and everything she says and does with respect to me, is based on HER OPINIONS....
So I am walking around now with a little glowing light above my head that sparkles at every put-down and condescension and criticism she throws my way, that gleams with the new understanding that it's only HER OPINION and therefore not necessarily accurate and set in stone! How simple.... and yet how mystifying until those few sentences gave me the sense to see it. Weird how sometimes something as obvious as that, can escape even the most thinking and analytical of minds, isn't it?
Anyway I am digressing. I too wish we were in the same country Kara... a coffee with you (tea in my case!) would be just great, wouldn't it ?
{{hugs}}} you made my day....
Kalyb xx
> After reading your post I'm inspired to look into therapy for myself. I've been toying apathetically with the idea, but I really need to do something about it. It's hard to keep the momentum going in between bouts of hopelessness and cynicism, but this has gone on long enough. I need to find a way out of all the trappings.
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> So anyway, good luck with everything. Wish I lived in the UK and we could meet for coffee, or something!
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