Posted by Pfinstegg on March 9, 2004, at 21:28:27
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by Fallen4myT on March 9, 2004, at 20:49:51
There have been several threads lately in which people have wondered whether certain T's were violating boundaries- I'm sure you remember the ones I mean. Sometimes, it certainly sounded as though they were. But the clients themselves didn't think so; they felt that they had somehow benefitted- sometimes benefitted a lot. I don't think anyone other than the people involved know whether the special relationships they have with their T's are good ones or not. What sound like boundary "violations" may be just boundary "crossings", which are supposed to be really helpful. You sound as though you probably have a helpful relationship which has some things in it which others might criticize, but which you KNOW are OK. No-one else needs to know anything about it. All we need to know is what you're WEARING! Then we can all go to sleep peacefully...
In other examples here on this board, there have been really damaging "violations". But the posters involved knew it themselves, or just needed a little nudge to realize it. Almost all of these seemed to me to involve rejection or indifference on the part of the T's; rarely, they involved a start down the "slippery slope" towards a sexual violation. I think that happened a lot more in the past than it does now, because of the extreme dangers to T's of lawsuits, loss of licenses and livelihoods. Don't you think every client-T pair work out a totally private, intimate relationship which. ideally, is truly helpful to the client? To describe them all in detail might make some of them sound a bit questionable. But they almost certainly aren't! They're all unique and wonderful - and no two the same. Otherwise, we'd have robots instead of T's, and no-one would get anything out of it.
Just be sure to keep on telling us what you are WEARING- and, of course, anything else you choose to tell!
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