Posted by KindGirl on March 10, 2004, at 16:50:25
In reply to Re: Another question » KindGirl, posted by crushedout on March 10, 2004, at 12:41:45
Hi I am back now.
You asked about the dreams....geez that is scary. I have never told her the few fantasies I had about her...way too embarassing....but when she held me the first few times, while I was crying on her chest I told her "this feels wrong...I feel like my mom was right and I am gay...." and she said..."No...this is natural and what was supposed to happen. You are not doing anything wrong. This is what you always needed..what every child needs..."Since the dream/fantasy left I didn't think to bring it up. I had heard her talk (or read an article by her) about a client who told her of a dream (woman) who saw herself kissing T. on the lips and how in the dream it started out innocent but went on to further things and in the dream the T yells at the woman for the inappropriate action....T says in the article that she told the client she did nothing wrong and there would never be anything that would cause T to push her away or yell at her...that this is not what T would do in that case...that those longings are from the little kid parts of us that never got the love we needed.
Now...if I were to kiss my T on the mouth I would have a great story to tell! Lobster dinner, kissing on the mouth....phew!...Don't think I will go there...esp since I think of her as a mom now.
Someone asked if she *my T* has kids...yes and they are grown up. She frequently uses our kids as analogies and tells me that I don't think it is weird or odd or gay to hold my little girl and there is absolutely no shame in love like this. Also what I love about her is how non-ruffled she gets when I say off the wall stuff....like "what if I AM gay?"...she said, "So? Do you think that changes anything? Do you think God won't love you? No no no. Nothing will keep the love of God from you." I LOVE THIS WOMAN!!!!! BTW, I am hetero, married, kids...love my hubby...but I do enjoy a good fantasy now and then!!!!!!!!!
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