Posted by pegasus on March 11, 2004, at 19:05:07
In reply to Meaning of something T said, posted by terrics on March 11, 2004, at 17:19:28
Hi terrics,
My understanding of transference is that it happens on some level in most relationships we have with anyone. Transference isn't a big bad thing, as I understand it. It's just the stuff you bring into the relationship that the other person triggers for you, but that doesn't really come from them. We tend to talk about transference more in terms of a therapy relationship, because it tends to become especially strong in that situation, and we can learn a lot by examining it. In fact, that is apparently one of the big goals of psychoanalysis: to see what type of transference develops, and examine it in detail to learn about the client's unconscious.
So, I'm a little surprised to learn that your T completely dismisses the idea of any transference in your relationship with her. I'm curious what her training is, and what approach she uses. It could be that she was trained mainly in a therapeutic technique that doesn't try to use transference (for example, behavioral therapy), or somehow has a different theory behind it that doesn't recognize transference as a legitimate thing. Different people have different views on the existence of transference, I think. But most theories of therapy that I'm aware of recognize that it is really common, if not inevitable.
- p
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