Posted by Penny on April 29, 2004, at 10:25:19
In reply to Re: A good therapist fit » Dinah, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2004, at 9:41:50
Interesting...
Well, I've seen several therapists and pdocs as well, and, as you know, I love the ones I have now. The first time, with my first T, I guess I was just lucky. I couldn't get an appointment with anyone and she had an opening. But she was good - had a pretty good mix of firm boundaries and accessiblity.
But my T now...well...I think she's fantastic. This time I interviewed three of them. One of them I didn't like at all - she would put words in my mouth, and I don't like people speaking for me in that way. And she assumed I was going to continue with her. The other two were both good. One of them reminded me a great deal of my old T, which I liked. But the other, the one I chose, had some things in common with my old T but more experience. And after our consultation session, I told her I had one more interview to do. She said, "Well, just let me know, because I want to make sure you're in somebody's good hands if not in mine." That really stuck with me. My pdoc (who gave me all their names) said that in addition to caring, it showed that she had a great deal of confidence in her ability to help me, which I probably found reassuring.
Her boundaries aren't as rigid as my former T, but they are rigid where they need to be. Of course, I don't push it either. And I don't feel a need to...
I would say she is also laid back, calm, unflappable and resilient. And she has this way of saying *just the right thing*, and of helping me to look at a given situation in a different light. She's very down-to-earth. And she loves animals, which doesn't hurt. :-)
P
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